Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife irishman33: don't get me wrong, i often have "blue" days where i feel as though life isn't worth living. then i have days like today when i feel like i can take on anything. i think it's just part of the emotional range we all go through when truama hits.
c4b is right......you are the only one that can make you happy. you rely on others and you are going to be let down.
tlamb it sounds like you are off to an excellent start......keep us informed and have a great time this evening!!
irish
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife tlamb: Thanks Irish.
You sound like you're going strong, keep it up.
TLamb
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife irishman33: welcome tlamb~
not having a good weekend though. i know that i should be strong because i have my kids, but i can't help wonder why she won't call back. she emailed me yesterday and i emailed her back about an hour later. i never heard back.......i figured she'd call last night, but again never heard. i find it hard to believe that we are going to work on this when i don't hear from her often. am i being to needy? should i just sit back and wait for her to call? this is hard because i don't want to go back to the guy i was 8 months ago.
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife someone:
It sounds to me like you may be on that path again. I have a similar situation with out the kids involved, but the yearning for it to be back the way it was is probably as great. I can understand how maybe the thought of reconciling may be hastened for the sake of the children... if that is the case. I would have to say that if you have waited 8 months already, then your doing alright, man, stay strong. I will also have to question how much you have really moved on. It sounds to me that you are still waiting for her to figure herself out so that she can finally come back when she realizes just how much she loved you. I can't tell you how many times that thought comforts me everyday and its only been 1 week of separation for me.
Here are some things I picked up from your post...
You say that you called her to get some account information and that is when she was talking about your relationship. Had she ever tried to contact you recently? Do you think she may have just been using the chance to find out some information?
You mention that she threw it in your face the fact that your 'dating' someone. Is this the first woman you have been 'dating' since your separation? How is the dating going? Do you like this new woman at all? (as a side note here.. how fair can you be in a relationship with someone else if your telling your ex that you want to be together).
This may be tough, but I know you may have thought of this. She may be fighting with the emotions the same way you are and then to find out your moving on could have frightened her. If she has not found her grounding in 8 months.. the news of you dating could have shocked her. Her ultimate fallback plan could be ruined.. even if she doesn't conciously think of it that way.
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife tlamb: Irish,
The one thing you can never do is go backwards. You owe it to yourself to continue moving forward regardless of the circumstances.
I give you great credit getting to where you are now. You will continue to grow day by day, just continue to be strong.
TLamb
