Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife irishman33: tlamb~
thanks for your words of encouragement. i hope to see the lights at the end of the tunnel soon. i am very sorry about your situation though, i guess at least you are finding some peace through all of it. not sure what the next step for me should be at this point......doesn't matter if your "old hat" or not at this......it's never easy. take care of yourself and thanks again for responding
irish
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife tlamb: No problem Irish.
I feel that my introduction to this site has given me the strength to look past the initial shock of this situation. I have also had the opportunity to see myself from the outside since this happened and I don't really like what I see.
I am in the process of changing for me, I realize that is what I have to do. My children and I will be fine in the end regardless of the outcome. I hope the same will be true for my wife.
Your story makes me feel like there is a chance, thanks for the posts. I'm not sure I can last that long, but who knows, as they say, only time will tell.
Stay strong.
TLamb
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife Change4better: TLamb is correct about all this, especially when one day you will look at yourself from the outside and won't like what you see, You will then do whatever is possible to change that, because its all about you and making yourself happy, its ashame in sence that all these years i thought it was my wifes responsibity to make me happy, when the answer is making yourself happy , just for you, Remember that you are responsible for you own happyiness, , I say that alot because I'm really saying it to myself, anyways, for over 10 years i've been unhappy about my weight problem (too slim), today i'm eating the right foods, and thinking about excersising to get in shape, If feels good that for once i'm doing something possitive for myself for a change. All you need to do is look at yourself, find something you don't like, and simply change it, Hey what the Hell! you have all the time in the world now to accomplish this, so you have no excuse, Keep the focus on yourself and everything else will fall in place,
Hope this helps,
Change4better aka (change)
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife irishman33: thanks for responding. i have been going to counseling off and on for the last 5 months because i did not like what i saw. i am attracted to drama and that is never a good thing. i al releasing all of that and turning my life around. part of the reason she left was due to my anger and sarcastic comments.......i am figuring it out through therapy that it was because i was not happy with myself.
tlamb, i'm glad that this helps you a bit.....there is always a chance that something will happen. it's awesome that you are working on yourself.....makes it that much easier to deal with whatever situation is handed to you. take care and hope to hear from you......
c4b, i am in a good spot right now. i have come to grips that this could go either way. like i said earlier, i am finding out who i am and what i want in life......seems a little late, but as they say "better late, then never". thanks again for helping me.....take care
irish
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife tlamb: This has all helped me a great deal, it is hard to even describe. Last Sunday I was out of control emotionally, today, I'm beck on stable ground, in large part to the storie I read and the comments and advice people on this site offer.
I will always have hope for my situation, if nothing else. C4B is so right, why should I be responsible for my wife's happiness, and her for mine, I have always put my relationship with her and the needs of my family over my own.
I know now that I need to change because there are many things I don't like about myself. That was never the case for me, I was always sure of everything.
It will be better!!!
TLamb
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