Re: no chemistry

Re: no chemistry ti-poux: [quote"> my perfect man doesnt exist. or he did and then went and climbed some mountain and fell and died, the stupid ass![/quote">

tbird,

I have already PM'd you but this is the "one that got away" until I finaly grieved. He did not die, but still I hung on to that for way too long.
Hope it helps you

http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,10481.msg84009.html#msg84009

Chantal
Re: no chemistry mydarkdreams: yanno.. a month and a half ago I was hopeless that I'd ever find anything interesting. A couple of failed lunch dates etc.. I thought that because I have 3 kids, one of which is a teen, another who has some disorders, etc that I would be destined to be alone, and then I kinda resigned to that..

Then along came Michael.. my knight in shining armor on a white horse. Seriously.. he is the best guy *EVER*

It'll happen for you also!

Re: no chemistry fisherman: Chemistry - that must mean something like love at first sight... I don't beleive in it - and I sure as hell don't put too much weight on it. Sure, there should be an initial attraction - but even that doesn't need to be that strong if you really like the person... That initial attraction goes away and is either left with respect and admiration - or something else.

Perhaps he has some other issues and doesn't want to entagle you in them? I wouldn't see the point of faking it for a couple hours over coffee.

Re: no chemistry jillieb44: I've never had chemistry until recently -- I don't think it's necessarily LOVE at first sight -- but a mutual physical attraction you can't explain...

I could fall in love without that initial spark...if the person had a great personality though wasn't initially physically attractive...

OTOH I've had a recent 100% physical attraction/electric chemistry with someone....will it develop into something more?? I have no idea....

Jillie

Re: no chemistry sourpuss: [quote author=tbird link=topic=18087.msg159906#msg159906 date=1125521313"> 2.5 hours for coffee is not stringing along? i know, it could have been worse. maybe its the pms really getting me down. i jsut havent felt this down in a long long time.
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my therapist (before i got kicked out of therapy) suggested that we do not become depressed because of an incident, we become depressed because of our reaction to an incident.

her example was, you are sitting in a restaurant, waiting for your friend to arrive for lunch. your friend never shows, you call & your friend doesn't answer. eventually, you give up and go home.

how does one interpret that?

1. you assume that you must have done something to upset your friend and she now hates you? that you are so dreadfully dull, that she just forgot to come?

2. you assume that there must be a reasonable explanation for this and you will call her and make sure there hasn't been an accident?

same situation, different emotional results.

there are so many possible reasons for his reaction that there is no reason to assume the fault (if that's the right word) lies with you.

perhaps his wife found your emails, read him the riot act & he wanted to let you down easy......one never knows. :P