Re: I think I'm falling out of love with my exwife. browngreen: [quote author=Beren link=topic=18096.msg160382#msg160382 date=1125595356">
Every memory gets marked after that. What you don't realize right away is that they're getting marked for elimination.
....The facts themselves don't disappear. It's more like the emotion bleeds out of it ....
I went out with my ex ...Seeing her face made me smile, genuinely. I remember this woman. I still smiled at her because she reminded me of someone I once loved.
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Wow Beren-- this is beautiful.
Blazin'--
IT's about Doggone TIME!!!!
LOL
BG
Re: I think I'm falling out of love with my exwife. Emo: Wow Beren... I totally relate to that last part... for me it has been 3 months and I am starting to genuinely move on and fall out of love... and so much of me is glad and relieved that the worst of the pain is over but another part of me feels sad?, guilty?, because if we really cared about each other so much for 3 years shouldn't it take me longer to forget about him? And yet after having him constantly on my mind for 3 years I am finding these days that I only think about him a few times a day, and there aren't any extreme emotions attached to those thoughts... maybe a little sadness or nostalgia or something.... it is strange
Re: I think I'm falling out of love with my exwife. jorgeb: Took me a few weeks to stop loving her to be honest.
I was fighting so hard to save the relationship because when I said 'till death do us part', I was blooming determined to stick to it. I think this kept me in a sort of denial. But when she left, I finally realised: Oh! She wasn't perfect for me after all. There are SO many things I can do as a single now I'm not worrying about keeping her happy. It feels pretty darn good to be honest.
My fear is that I don't understand what went wrong, so I worry bout making the same mistakes again.
Re: I think I'm falling out of love with my exwife. flyaway: Blazin Heart,
I so feel that too about my stbxh! Now when I see him, I don't even really understand what it was about him that drew me to him in the first place....
No, I don't think that this is an emotional, knee-jerk reaction. In fact, it just feels like a void...almost unemotional...
I am at the point where I am thinking that if he does happen to get his life, and finances, and sexual addictions under control, then yay for him, but he's gonna do it without me....
I too have heard all the theories about how long it should be before you start to date......depending on how long you were married, etc.
I find this so discouraging.....I'm impatient. I want to get out there and have some fun....not serious fun, but fun.....
I think this would be a good sign that both you and I are on the road to getting there.... :D
best to you!!!!
Flyaway
