Re: rebound. inevitable? sourpuss: perhaps "rebound" or "transitional" are poor descriptions.
i think the core of my questions is: is the first relationship after a long-term committed relationship doomed to failure?
Re: rebound. inevitable? lexi1012: I really don't see why the next relationship is doomed to fail? Some people cheat on their husbands or wives and end up staying with that person.
Despite everything I have gone through, I am just a romantic at heart. I can't help it. I still believe in love and marriage and all that crap!
Re: rebound. inevitable? jason_stl: I think the ones that last, in all honesty, are the ones where two people are determined to never changing. I think the reason why the first relationships generally fail is that we soon realize that we need to evolve, we need to shed those bad traits and we need to develop that new sense of our individuality. How can you do that when you have someone with you? I think the realization that the rebound isn't what we need is the first catalyst in a complex chain of events to morph into a better, more rounded person.
Re: rebound. inevitable? bjs2005: Honestly, so far I am just throwing a lot of crap against a barn and seeing if any of it sticks :)
Re: rebound. inevitable? Emo: I started dating someone a month after my split with my bf of 3 years and I wasn't over my ex but I really liked the new guy and now looking back on that I don't think it was right.... I would not call it a rebound because I did not get involved with the guy for any "rebound" reasons, I got involved with him because I genuinely liked him, but I was dealing with all of this other crap involved with my breakup, and then my ex wanted me back and I questioned everything etc.... so it was not nice to put this guy through all of this! But he miraculously stuck with me and now it is 3 months past my breakup and I am over most of the tough stuff getting over my ex and genuinely moving on and now this new relationship is really turning into something wonderful and we think we are falling in love... I am 20 and not looking for a husband yet, rather I am more interested in having intense, committed, long term relationships with lots of learning and growth... so unless I am still with this guy when I start to be serious about marriage it is kind of destined to end at some point, but I think something really awesome is coming out of what could be seen as originally being a rebound situation.....
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