Re: So now what? Cowboy12: He wont know that C has a special pair of earrings for each outfit, or that S needs to have only white socks with her favorite shoes, or that T likes to dance to country music as soon as she gets up in the morning. I just want to cry everytime I think about it!!!!!
hey WG, that line above struck me about how much I do know about my girls different ways of liking things ...hair up, ponytailed, etc....
It is so hard not been there anymore to hear abot their lives... At present during the week I can call them on their cell phones but it's not the same.
I hate this seperation .... I came home from germany last night after really good week away, it sucked that everyone else was going home to their spouses and kids and I was in no rush to go anywhere...as I had no one to come home too.
As bubba said a lot of men make good dads ...I hope I can get more time with my girls....I would love joint custody, why wouldn't I, I didn't cheat and selfishly want out ...
Anyway sorry Whiskey ...didn't mean to hyjack ..
your a good mother...hey everyone knows that
Re: So now what? Smiley17: WG, Girl... I'm so sorry that you feel this way, and I might feel the same if I were in your shoes, but at least your ex is trying to be there for them, unlike mine.
Mine only has them (by his choice), 12 hours per month because that's all he can handle. I take care of those kids 24/7. I do all the school stuff, the doctor stuff, the play stuff, the work stuff, all of it. He considers himself father of the year because he sees his kids "regularly", and pays child support. Kudos to him!
Granted, I'm lucky that he pays what he pays, but my kids are essentially growing up without a father. He's just another play mate to them... nothing more.
I'm so sorry that this hurts you so much, but your kids are very lucky that they can see their father as much as they can.
Try not to be so upset. At least your babies will be emotionally healthy and balanced. I say it's a good thing!
Keep your head up. It'll pay off for you in the long run, you'll see. :-*
Re: So now what? WhiskeyGirl: Hey thanks you guys :) this whole thing just took me by surprise :-\
Hey Bubba.....I know guys can be just as good at parenting as women are, in fact when my ex does have them he does a pretty good job I guess....he must because when he comes to pick them up they all go running to him and are happy to see him. Its just that he has never had any interest in having them more often than he does now.
I have never really thought about being happy that I never had to have only every second weekend, obviously that would never happen to me. I know some women make it hard for there ex's to see the kids but I have never been like that. Every second weekend was his choice, not mine, I have made it very clear that whenever he wants to see them all he has to do is call.....
Cowboy, I didn't mean to imply that men in general just dont know all these special things about their kids.....but my ex really doesn't, he doesn't see them often enough to learn this stuff. I'm sure if we do this he will learn it all pretty quick but still.....I cant help but worry about them ya know?
Hey Smiley....see thats the thing, my ex has NEVER mentioned wanting them anymore than his weekends. In fact sometimes its been like pulling teeth just to get him to take them when we agreed. I mean seriously, I have had times where I needed him to watch them on my weekend for a few hours and he says okay sure....but next weekend I will only have them for one night...or drop them off a few hrs early to make up for it!!! WTF? Is it really that big of a "favour" to me for the guy to have an extra few hours with his kids? ARGH! I do know it will be nice for them to see their dad more often. And I so hear you on the father of the year thing, he thinks exactly the same way ::) Loooozzzzzzaaaaaaaaaa's! I suppose I am lucky as well because he has never skipped out on child support....mind you, I agreed to alot less than what the courts would have ordered because I am too damn nice but if any major purchase comes up he usually agrees to pay for half of it as well. now I'm rambling ::) lol
I guess I will get used to it if and when it does happen, its just hard to think about right now :'(
You guys all ROCK! thanks so much for being an ear for me :)
Re: So now what? hardened_heart1970: hey sw....... woops wrong post...
i do agree that SOME(*key word) MEN can do just a good a job as a woman raising kids. (i know you were not saying that)
i have week to week, just like bubba. it is frigin hard in the beginning, and along the way you will have set backs.... i dont get my daughters back till monday, and i MISS MISS MISS them more everyday. but remember one thing. he cannot buy the kids love. they will ALWAYS see you were the one that was there for them, and they will respect you.....
you have an advantage. you are a MOM raising daughters.. you know what women go through. i myself, am scared shitless that i will F' someone up that soes my daughter wrong. and i have to be the one to explain things to the girls that i know nothing about........
the reason they run to him, is you are always with them. they want what they dont see every day......
in ending, it will give you more ME time, and you will get used to it, and then your kids will have both parents, and that whats best for the kids....
p.s.s.s.s.s.s you work to much.........lol....
Re: So now what? WhiskeyGirl: Hey Willy!
thanks :) yeah, it doesn't bother me that they run to him, in fact in warms my heart to see them yelling daaaaaddddyyyyyyyy!!! and go running over when he comes, its far better than if they cryed and didnt want to go with him at any rate.
I guess I am being selfish but its just tough to think about only having them every second week. I'm sure if he lives close by I could just pop over and grab them for a bit a few times during his weeks. mabey it wont be so bad, its just hit me like a ton of bricks.
lmao....work too much? Not sure if I'm workin' hard ....or hardly workin' ;D
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