Re: my child has a horrible issue alonewith2: My daughter just went through that phase. It was a mixture of daddy leaving, not going to daycare anymore, and having mommy work different hours. It was like her routine was all messed up and she was po'd about it. I did the ignoring thing.....and after she became used to the new routine, she calmed down a lot. If we were in public....I usually did what Jillie said. I ignored it or took her to the car until she calmed down.
It was hard on me since it was happening during the beginning of my separation from the STBX. I wish you luck and hope you both get through this in one piece!
Re: my child has a horrible issue alonewith2: [quote author=alonewith2 (s-n-b) link=topic=18534.msg165216#msg165216 date=1126448253">
My daughter just went through that phase. It was a mixture of daddy leaving, not going to daycare anymore, and having mommy work different hours. It was like her routine was all messed up and she was po'd about it. I would pick her up from my sister's and as soon as we entered our house she would immediately throw herself on the floor and throw a tantrum for what seemed like hours! I did the ignoring thing.....and after she became used to the new routine, she calmed down a lot. If we were in public....I usually did what Jillie said. I ignored it or took her to the car until she calmed down.
It was hard on me since it was happening during the beginning of my separation from the STBX. I wish you luck and hope you both get through this in one piece!
edited to add: I almost forgot that it always worked to distract her, too. It wasn't a bribe with cookies or anything like that, but I would ask her if she wanted to go for a walk (which she loved!) or take a bath (which she loved!)....something along that nature that would get her mind off why she was throwing the tantrum to begin with.
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Re: my child has a horrible issue WhiskeyGirl: [quote author=jillieb44 link=topic=18534.msg165185#msg165185 date=1126443356">
Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Kurcinka is invaluable for getting ideas for tantrums and other intense behaviors.
For me it was a) ignoring it if it weren't bothering others or b) picking up said child without saying a word and leaving the public place to go to the car until the tantrum were finished.
Threats, taking stuff away, etc. rarely works long term. Trying to figure out the cause of the tantrum and helping your child through it (tired, hungry, bored -- fix the cause) by getting food, distraction, nap (driving away), and the like helps more.
Jillie, mom of the premier tantrum thrower...who now has a relatively calm 7 yr old...
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That is an excellent post......and an excellent book
Whiskey, mother of devil's spawn 2 yr old....now turned 3yr old angel ;D
Re: my child has a horrible issue ashamaliedarn: Thanks for all you guys' wonderful advice...I'm at the point now where I'm trying to find out what's worked best for everyone...cause she's just started this in the last 3 weeks....maybe a mixture of the people we have living here now, her daddy leaving, and mommy's new job/daycare situation...so we'll have to try all of them and see what works. THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH!
Re: my child has a horrible issue jillieb44: And those are all big issues in the life of a 3 yr old. Just spend time with her, listen to her, and act like everything will be okay. Cuz it will.
Jillie
