parenting time before the custody agreement sunnydays: do i have to let my stbxh have time with my daughter before we have made a formal agreement? When we talk he agrees to something, then after talking to his gf, he changes his mind, and it is driving me crazy. He says I am denying his his parental rights if I don't let him take her whenever he wants her. Help.
Re: parenting time before the custody agreement sourpuss: you do. he has the same rights you do.
please rememer that this is as much about YOUR CHILD'S right to see her father as it is about his right to see her. are his "demands" unreasonable or are they merely inconvenient for you? as awful as it is, you must put your girl's needs ahead of your own.
if you are concerned for her safety, then your lawyer can request an immediate custody hearing in most places. if you are thinking that the 2 of you will not be able to agree on terms, let your lawyer know & have them handle it.
Re: parenting time before the custody agreement OneMist8k: Here is what you do:
1. Get the agreement in writing between the two of you. Include a calendar, holidays, and specific pick up and drop off times. Specify who provides transportation (the receiving party is the norm). If that doesn't work, see 2.
2. Get temporary orders. This is in writing, but it is legally binding. Anything can be thrown into temporary orders, including support, but they are only temporary.
Without it in writing, you are in for one long running fight. This will provide some structure for visitation while everything else is ironed out.
