Re: Give up hope and date? hardened_heart1970: if you want and can see yourself back with your ex, do not date, as your just gonna hurt her, and youreself......
when you can look at another woman, and not think about your wife, then you can date. it took me 9 months to do that.
IMHO
Re: Give up hope and date? Ilosther: hmmm, i never once thought of my wife when i looked at the other one. i was actually happy, smiling, just legitimately happy.
but who knows, just see what happens, not force anything.
thanks
Re: Give up hope and date? JimB: [quote author=Havehope link=topic=18542.msg165159#msg165159 date=1126441601">
I'm not tryin to lead this person on, I just want to be happy again. [/quote">
From what you write, I suggest you wait. Connections with other people are out there for you, and will still be available when the timing is better. Pinning your hopes on any one person isn't a wise policy at this point.
Besides, if you still want things to work out with your wife (which it sounds as if you do), the last thing you want is to get involved with someone else. It'll conflict your own emotions and it'll send her the wrong message.
Not to be a negative Ned, but "just wanting to be happy again" is putting the cart before the horse. Your life is too chaotic now - happiness will be more accessible to you once you've decided which path to follow.
