Re: That Tape? lostboy: Steve,
Not a the best move. If I were you I'd A. stop watching the tape and B. erase it or destroy it. I know your upset and in pain, and I can relate to your feeling lost with out any recourse or way of getting your wife back
I can see your really desperate to find some way of "reaching" her.
But sending her a viedeo tape of the both of you having sex. (One you created with out her permission) IS NOT going to improve your situation.
If the woman she's now with has trashed you or your persona in anyway all you will be doing his helping to instill and confirm what ever negative feelings your wife has toword you.
Do not, I repeat Do Not send that tape!
The only way your going to reach your wife at all is through strength of your own character and believe me doing this would only degrade you in her eyes.
Get rid of the tape and try to accept whats happened. It's the only way you will be able to progress. As long as you have that tape you will be in limbo.
Show your wife through your strength and will what she has lost. Be strong and be honorable.
I wish I could say some incantation and make it all better but this is all I can say.
Accept what has happened, fight and provide for your children and find the courage to move on.
Keep posting.
keep well,
Lostboy
Re: That Tape? tyrogers: Whoa. First off, destroy that tape. That was made without her consent and that is unthinkable! I mean, don't get me wrong, nothing wrong with a good homemade tape, but good god! Make it between two people who are willing! Wow. I would beat the hell out of anyone in my past who did that to me!
OMG! DESTROY THAT!! DO NOT SEND IT TO HER!! DO NOT MENTION IT TO HER EVER!!!
Destroy it for yourself too. If you are still as hung on her as you are and you are watching it, you will NEVER be able to move on. Destroy it for your own wellness.
BBH
Re: That Tape? tara: Get a hammer. Get the tape. Break the tape case with the hammer. Get a scissors. Slice the tape up into little pieces.
Seriously.
You videotaped her without her consent; in many states, that's illegal. In the rest, it should be. You show her that tape, she could possibly have you arrested, and almost certainly she'd have a civil case against you (if you live in a fault state, she could -- and should -- use it as evidence in a divorce).
I'm not condoning her up and leaving (although if she was a lesbian, it probably was a foregone conclusion, but she could have handled it better). But destroy the tape.
Hell, my ex and I made a tape -- consentually -- and we still destroyed it when we split.
