help on what to do after my spouse has cheated LostandSad: Hi Everyone,
To anyone that can help me I would be so greatfull. I have been with my husband for 10 years married for 8 1/2 years. About 2 weeks ago he informed me that he was cheating on me with another woman. He moved out to be with her and 3 days later came back saying he wanted to make our marriage work. I later found out that the other lady decided she wanted to stay with her boyfriend that she was with. I find my self crying all the time and start crying for no reason at all. I cant sleep cause i have bad dreams of my husband and the other lady togeather and it is killing me. I love my husband very much and want to make our marriage work for ua and for our 3 kids. I just dont know how to trust and to get over the fear that I have. What shuld I do. I feel like I am going to have a nerves breakdown from all of this. Thanks for listening.
LOST AND SAD :'(
Re: help on what to do after my spouse has cheated Dolphin Close: Do you really want him back considering he only came back to you after the other woman decided to go back to the boyfriend?
Re: help on what to do after my spouse has cheated LostandSad: part of me does because i have given him 10 years and 3 kids are involved. A part of me doesnt want to let her win I guess. And there then is the part of me that just really dosnt want to hurt anymore, but I cant seem to figure out if that means to let go of the marriage or keep working on it. My husband has kept me very shelterd in a sense. I have no friends, no job and no family close to help me. He knows that he is all that I have right now. I have thought of sucide several times and tried it once. I am just so hurt and lost I dont know what to do anymore. I want to live for my kids but there is so much pain I just want out and sometimes it seems like that is the easy way out. :'( I dont know if I am just spinning my wheels on trying to keep this marriage togeather or not. He says he loves me but isnt in love with me. And that I love him in a way that he doesnt love me. It hurts to hear the things that he says.
Re: help on what to do after my spouse has cheated feelindown: I'm so sad for you! I'm glad that you found this website, the people here really helped me get past the pain and dispair that I was feeling.
There are a lot of tough choices that you will have to make in the coming future. But going through this myself, I have learned that there are people out there that will love you and help you. It might not come at the exact time that you feel you need it to.
Good luck, you can always write me if you need to talk more.
Re: help on what to do after my spouse has cheated Lome: first,
Huge Hugs!
I am exactly where you are except mine has been back since June 2......
you are having a nervous breakdown.....it is a chemical thing...and you may want to get some help.....
survivinginfidelity.com is a web site for us....like ojar, it is full of people who understand....but, it is for those of us fools who love their mates and want to make it work....
I will do anything I can to help....just email me or pm
<Michael - deleted email address>
I pray that you can make it....ojar was my lifeline for some time.....and it helped.
bye, Lome
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