How relevant is age? sigkapgirl: Okay, sooooo, I know that age isn't supposed to matter, BUT this is a first for me.... Hot Neighbor Guy (hereafter known as merely HNG) is 12 or 13 years older than me...
I've only dated one other person older than me, and he was only 4 months older. Granted, I've been leaning in that direction because, quite honestly, men that age are more mature, they have steady jobs, etc. Stability is a good good thing right now!
Anyways, so, does age matter? Are there going to be any problems associated with the age difference? I mean, HNG isn't so much older that he's ancient and from another era or anything, but I'm just wondering, because this is all new to me.
I have to say though, if age comes with politeness, manners, and knowing how to treat a woman... I'm not complaining! And so far, that's the main difference I see between HNG and the other guys I've dated.
So... opinions, please. And please don't bash me for saying that age might matter, because I am truly curious to know what to expect because I've never had to deal with something like this before.
Thanks :)
Re: How relevant is age? tara: The older you get, the less it matters.
If you're 18, and he's 30, it may be a problem, as you'll be fresh out of high school and he might be ready to settle down, have kids. At the very least, you won't be able to get into places he might want to go on dates.
If you're 30 and he's 42, it matters less. I'll be 30 at the end of the month, and I'd date 42. (I tend to relate better to people older than people younger, in any case.) One of the happiest couples I know -- she's 28, he's 42; they married when she was 17!
J is 2 months older than me, and one of the youngest people relative to me, who I've dated. In case you were wondering (which you probably weren't), my extremes:
I've kissed someone 6 years younger and maybe 13-14 years older than I was.
I've dated someone one year younger and seven years older (the latter when I was 15...eep).
I've slept with someone two months older and a year and a half older than me (yep, almost no range there).
In other words...age is no biggie, unless you're 15 and he's 22 and your parents catch you.
Re: How relevant is age? Bubba: Well you are what, 23? Therefore he is 35 to 36? In other words it would be like me dating 20 or 21 year old. I agree that as you get on in life age matters less and less, but truth be told how much are you really going to have in common with someone that is from another generation? You are both at different points in your life. You are still in school. You have yet to start a career. He is has been out of school for a long time. He has been in the work force for a long time.
I know when I became single again I didn't want to date anyone 5 years older or younger then me. I did date a 27 year old woman was I was 19 and after a while the differences are obvious. BBH is a little more then 2 years younger then me, and well, she is the youngest I have ever had a relationship with. I would bet that in the beginning the relationship would go fine, but odds are the age difference would be become more evident as time wore on. I am not saying it won't work, for it just might, but I would think the odds would be against it.
Cheers
Bubba
Re: How relevant is age? AmyMarie1972: Age only matters if you think that it does or he thinks that it does. If two people are happy together and the relationship is working what does 12 years matter really.
My nan was 10 years older than my grandad and they were married for over 40 years.
If you like him and he likes you then you go for it.
Good luck
Amy
Re: How relevant is age? Yeehaw: [minor hijack">
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Okay, sooooo, I know that age isn't supposed to matter, BUT this is a first for me.... Hot Neighbor Guy (hereafter known as merely HNG)
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HNG..... acronym spoken as "Hung" - - like a horse?
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bwaaaahahahahahahaa!
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On Topic: I have discovered (being old as dirt) that while having 20-something on your arm might be attractive to the ego, it is destructive to the intellect.
Different times, different music, different maturity level, etc.
IMO
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