2 "friends" came forward ColoHill: So, over this weekend, two people have come forward with some interesting information. I first must say that part of this came from the phylosophy, "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer." The first came from a girl who is married to a guy she stole from one of our best friends. When we lived in our apartment, her family lived in the same building. She told me that one night, D tried to kiss her while making some comments about sleeping w/ her. I know for a fact, from little comments she has made, she would have jumped if he had done something. So why is she telling me? Do I believe her? He denys it (of course--or maybe not of course). Do I belive him? Frankly, I don't believe either.
Then comes the other one. This girl has tried to nail each and every single guy I have ever been close to. I answered caught her trying to hint that D needed to call her sometime. She now says that he just showed up at her house one day and was talking about why her and I weren't close friends...She says he then "went for it" and she told him to leave. **NOTE: She didn't tell me this with news that we were seperating but with news that he cheated and says it's because she feels safe telling me now that he is leaving. When I asked D, he said she had called him and asked him to come over to talk about her then-husband because that guy had been hitting her. D says he went and she started making comments and he left.
This brings me to the question I asked all three of them..."You love me, right? You claim you want nothing but the best for me, want me happy, want me to be surrounded by people that are good for me...Then how could you allow me to get drawn further into this relationship (the one w/ D or the friendships respectivly)? How could you not tell me? How could you lie?
I feel betrayed by everyone I spend any time talking to. Now I really feel alone. I can't trust anyone!!
Re: 2 "friends" came forward edgecombe: Of course I can't speak for your friends or know if they were telling you the truth or not. But I do know that when a friend's SO hits on you, it puts you in a helluva awkward position. You don't want to hurt your friend if you know she's really into this guy, and you also don't want to take the risk of your friend thinking you're lying. It makes you question whether the SO was REALLY hitting on you, or if you misinterpreted or exaggerated... espacially if it was very subtle. I remember being in this position and thinking distinctly "She'll find out eventually on her own", because I did not want to jeopardize our friendship over something I wasn't positive actually happened.
Nonetheless, I would want my friends to tell me if my SO hit on them, so I know where you're coming from. However, it doesn't seem like either of these girls was really your friend, particularly the second girl. And it seems like you have already realized that he didn't have your best interest at heart. In actuality, they were probably all telling half the truth and half lying. You deserve better friends, but don't let that make you stop trusting people. Just be thankful these particular jerks are out of your life and move on.
Re: 2 "friends" came forward tyrogers: There was a thread about this somewhere the other day. Hang on, lemme find it for ya.
BBH
Re: 2 "friends" came forward tyrogers: http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,18468.0.html
Here it is. Might give you some insight honey.
Love you!!! :-* :-*
BBH
Re: 2 "friends" came forward Lumpy: Does it really matter at this point? You know he cheated. Does it matter with whom and when? Sounds ta me like these "friends" are as unreliable as your ex. Seperate yourself from these losers.
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