Re: I told him... kinda... Smiley17: [quote author=skavachi link=topic=19002.msg171046#msg171046 date=1127236465">
Don't go into hiding. Just use electro-shock treatments on him if he learns too much. ;D That ALWAYS does the trick!
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LOL!!!
I'm not always this open, and with this site, I can come out of my shell, but still kinda hide. I'm not sure I want to give that up.
I know I can trust him. Well, at the least, I hope I can.
I'll explain to him that I work out my inner most thoughts here, and that it helps me make sensible choices.
Re: I told him... kinda... ChristyM: Wow! Haven't seen Skavachi in a long time!
I think inviting him was fine. Actually surprised to hear you did it. You are most definitely stepping out of your comfort zone. Good for you K!
As far as Ojar ... I wouldn't do anything except try to maybe not tell him the exact site, but I'm sure the word Ojar will come up many times during the get together. He said he'll respect your privacy. Trust him until he gives you reason to believe otherwise.
Christy
Re: I told him... kinda... skavachi: I can definately see where opening your "inner you" to someone could pose a serious threat to your heart. I know it's none of my business, but I am nosey...sooooo, what are you really afraid of him finding out about you? You've obviously invested a lot of energy and trust in the relationship if you are willing to expose him to the horror of the Ojarians.
If you are yourself on here and not around him, then I think you should ease on into showing him who you really are all around...mentallly and physically.
I know most women think we are stoopider (<---yes, on purpose...I think..) than they are, but we can tell when people are holding out on us. I think, IF you are ready to be really serious with him, then you should hang it all out. (sooner or later) Trust, as painful as it is, is the key right? I think...uh... ;D You'll figure it all out in time. You are an intelligent and gracious person. You are taking a huge step in the invitation of the Ojar meeting. (Don't do it...they will sacrifice him to the divorse gods...) j/k
They will cut him into tiny pieces and...uh...nvm. :P
P.S. Yeah I was out of state for a few months for my job. Finally back home again! Wooo Hoo!
Re: I told him... kinda... Smiley17: Thanks, Christy!!! :-*
I'm glad that I invited him, but still scared too. Boy, I say that a lot these days! OMG! I guess that comes with leaving the comfort zone though.
I think this is getting serious, and probably needs to in order to get my butt into gear about a few things, but sometimes I wonder if I'm just tempting fate here. Who knows? Maybe I'm pushing the envelope a little too far.
I don't want him to see all I wrote because I've travelled so far outside of my comfort zone, and tastes. But, trust me, I am SOOOOOOOOO glad that I did!! I used to read that going outside the lines is what's best, but I never fully trusted that. I'm happy that this time I did. I found someone really special, and even with my silly fears and concerns, which I happen to think are normal, I still really like him, and will continue to.
I think life has given me a second chance at doing something right.
Oh, and skavachi, thank you for your comments, and I'm glad you're back!
Re: I told him... kinda... JimB: FWIW....
My gf knows all about this site, but frankly isn't all that interested. I mean, she's never been divorced, so it really isn't pertinent to her. She met a bunch of people at the Chicago gathering and really had fun (and earned herself a few fans, I believe), but isn't really inclined to poke around here.
I suspect a lot of non-divorced people would feel the same way....
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