Re: *grr* he just won't let it go! jadedangel: [color=navy"> Why is he doing it --- coz basically he sounds like a selfish prick who doesn't want you to be happy ----
What they all said -- he is trying to manipulate you and taking away his presence isn't really a threat. Who you date -- should not determine whether he has a relationship with his son .....
Boy ... that is a new level of crappy to me....[/color">
Re: *grr* he just won't let it go! rhondam71: Some still sink to all time lows! There is ZERO logic in refusing to see his son based on someone you are seeing. The ONLY reason is to try and force your hand. Have you asked him point blank what his not seeing his son has to do with this situation??? LOUSY FATHER.
IF I ever held a high office (not gonna happen), I would fight tooth and nail for a mandatory visitation for parents who are perfectly capable but are buttheads and refuse to see their children. I have a baby, so don't get me wrong, but single parents have been forced to solely raise their children for ages...why not MAKE them be active in their kids' lives as long as they are sane (this one will be hard not to touch!) and APPEAR to have a decent head on their shoulders (again...hard to not comment!)
Re: *grr* he just won't let it go! mydarkdreams: Yep, asked him point blank - it's cause he "doesn't like this guy" (who he knows next to NOTHING about).. he says "I've done it before, I will do it again" meaning, he didn't like his ex's choice for her next boyfriend/husband and so he didn't see his other son for a year or so because of it.. well - hate to say it but my son and I are not pieces in his game any longer - we are no longer pawns.
Re: *grr* he just won't let it go! sadaboutdad: If you let your x force you like this you son will think it is ok. In fact if he dosen't want to see his son for such a stupid reason and is willing to cut him out of his life like that....well... you son will be MUCH better off with out him, you know he will. A boy will grow up to be like the man who raised him, unless there is a reason that the boy realizes that there is something wrong with that picture. You need to let him know that his father is not the person he wants to grow up to be. This new guy sounds like a good role-model for your son, not a minipulative, lying, cheating, faking, mooching (shall I go on...) man. Do you think your x is happy? Maybe it's because he is like his parents. Save your son from your x's fate. I would not even let such a looser get near my children (biologicaly connected or not) if they didn't want to. I say it is a bluff to controll you. Call it. If it is then he will still see his son, if not then you have lost your son's father and possible future role-model (think about it). I think your son will lead a much happier life treating people right. If you let this guy walk all over you then your son will think it is ok, if you stop it then your son will know it's not
Re: *grr* he just won't let it go! mydarkdreams: absolutely too true.
I am facing the day with a renewed spirit that my son is so much better off if his "father" does ditch him, really. He's never done anything for him anyways.
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