A letter I intend to send mydarkdreams: This shall be the reply to my ex's email from this morning...
Here is the letter I am replying to, with my reply...
"{My name} make the final choice either you stop everything with him or i have to keep this this way w/o seeing {our son} or you . i can tell you the reason but you will never understand. this has to happen i won't back down or change i'm only gonna get more pissed. go find someone else just not this guy. i know you think it's just a way of me controling you but it's not i don't trust him like him or want him around my son. i can't control if you still do it and lie to me about it but i'm asking you please stop no matter how you feel about it stop for me and {our son} .. it's a simple request cut it off make him go away totally this time ."
Ex,
This is not about {my new bf}, and we both know it. This is about maintaining some level of control over my life. If {my new bf} was not in the picture, it would be someone or something else. No one I expressed interest in would be acceptable to you. I wish I knew why you find it hard to let go, and let me move on when it is obvious you have already done so.
Your statement that you are “only going to get more pissed” concerns me greatly. Please be aware that I will not suffer any further mental, emotional, or physical abuse, and will take whatever steps are necessary to protect both myself and our son.
I have no plans on lying to you about the actions I take. I am an adult, and we are not married. You chose to leave the relationship first. In doing so, I am no longer responsible for your feelings or guilt, and I am most especially not responsible for the actions you choose to take.
Did you ask me for my opinion on your new girlfriend? Would you have left her if I told you I didn’t “like or trust her”, and that if you didn’t you would never see our son again? No, you would not have. I also would never keep Our son from his father in such a manner. To do so would be manipulative and wrong.
Should you choose to not see our son it will be your choice, and your choice alone. You will not lay the guilt for your actions at my feet any longer. No matter what you feel toward me, I am asking you not to use your relationship with your son like this. Our son should not suffer or be punished because our relationship did not work out. Our Son should have a relationship with you, and see you, and I am willing to work with you in making that happen. However, my personal life is not and should not be a deciding factor on if that happens.
Please consider your actions carefully, and do what is right for your son.
Me
Re: A letter I intend to send jadedangel: [color=navy"> I think it is good ---- you should send it ... it only speaks truth. I like that it shows .. he can no longer 'guide' your choices.[/color">
Re: A letter I intend to send Lumpy: I wouldn't even bother MDD. In a way you're just fueling his irrationality by responding to it. He's not going to hear you. Give him a dose of no contact. If he wants to see his son, fine. Anything else I'd turn a deaf ear to.
Re: A letter I intend to send mydarkdreams: I think I am going to send it (Lumpy I totally appreciate and understand what you are saying) because if, for nothing else, I may at some point need it for court to show that I have tried to be reasonable and workable and he is being anything but.
Re: A letter I intend to send Lumpy: Not a bad idea at all...That's the one plus side to his attitude. He'll dig his own grave!
