Re: someone is looking after me bjs2005: [quote author=browngreen link=topic=19015.msg171867#msg171867 date=1127324316">
BJs-- who is that overanalyzation?!
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Re: someone is looking after me summerparis: Reminds me of a fortune cookie I got once: "Enjoy what comes your way without delay."
It sounds like a really nice friendship, browngreen, and where it goes is anyone's guess. After what you've gone through trying to decide if your marriage was worth salvaging and ultimately deciding that it was not, it must be wonderful to have someone in your life who is taking care of you.
But remember, in the words of my godmother, "If there aren't bells and whistles now, there probably won't be any later." Don't feel bad if he's not what you're looking for, browngreen.
Songbird
Re: someone is looking after me ChristyM: I just think you haven't met the person who fits the bill on both fronts -- emotionally and physically. Both of them have to exist for the relationship to work. You will find it. It is possible to find a guy that just thinking about drives you crazy and also can be trusted with your emotions and needs.
Christy
Re: someone is looking after me browngreen: Christy and Songbird
I'd like to beleive that is possible.
[quote author=ChristyM link=topic=19015.msg171951#msg171951 date=1127329354"> You will find it. It is possible to find a guy that just thinking about drives you crazy and also can be trusted with your emotions and needs.
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But I'm not young and naiive anymore, you know?
I thought I had just that, twice, with my son's dad and then with my H.
I thought I had the whole package in both men.
and both times it didn't last.
At this point, I have to see myself as a repeat offender in this vein. I keep wanting it all, when maybe what I should be doing is taking what is coming naturally and feeling safe.
Maybe, just maybe I've put too much importance on sex!
DUH!
LOL
I mean, sex is great, don't get me wrong. But I think maybe I"ve put too much importance on it, and on attraction and chemistry.
I've been weak and given in to it. I KNEW my H wasn't going to be good for me, but the chemistry was really intense.
I think I've been thinking with my female anatomy!
With that, and with some weird idea that a R should give me ente
