I have some questions, indulge my curiosity mydarkdreams: OK, yes this is in direct relation to goings on with my ex etc, but that aside here it is:
I have a townhouse, it is in my name only (renting), ex lived with me for 4 months after we split - he kept referring to it as MY House after we split- which it was/is and I still live there.
OK, meet someone new - have him at *my* house where the ex still happens to be mooching from.. chat with him very innocently in my livingroom with the front door open.
Well - the ex's problem is that "I had another guy in *HIS* house" - thus the basis for his hatred of my new guy (apparently)..
can ANYONE help make sense of this?
Re: I have some questions, indulge my curiosity YellowJacket: Yes. X wants to see the situation in whatever way serves his current purpose at the time.
Wait a while, whose house it is will change again...
Re: I have some questions, indulge my curiosity Lumpy: [quote author=YellowJacket link=topic=19019.msg171348#msg171348 date=1127257698">
Wait a while, whose house it is will change again...
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Too true. Let him know there are some maintainence issues with "His" house that you need him to fix. See whose house it is then...
Re: I have some questions, indulge my curiosity bjs2005: If you want the guy feeling version is that since you both lived there, it was sacred ground and when another man steps into that sacred ground he desecrates that place and it is no longer sacred.
Kind of like how men get real upset when other men sleep with "thier women," it's a posession/attachment thing.
Not saying he's right or wrong, I am just telling you what he's feeling.
Re: I have some questions, indulge my curiosity mydarkdreams: [quote author=bjs2005 link=topic=19019.msg171358#msg171358 date=1127258005">
If you want the guy feeling version is that since you both lived there, it was sacred ground and when another man steps into that sacred ground he desecrates that place and it is no longer sacred.
Kind of like how men get real upset when other men sleep with "thier women," it's a posession/attachment thing.
Not saying he's right or wrong, I am just telling you what he's feeling.
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This is exactly what I was looking for - because I don't get it. He's still territorial over my *BED* for gods sakes. but *HE* Chose to leave and take up with a new girlfriend.. he had a new girlfriend the entire time AND she was his girlfriend when I met the new guy (which really was an innocent meeting) .. OH and, his new girlfriend has been in *MY* house.. so, double standards apply? Oh, and with this wave of thinking - is it some "unwritten guy rule" that all guys know? I should modify my original post to ask that. Cause the new guy was like what?! i thought nothing of it either - he left we werent together.
yes the posession of the house has flipflopped to meet his current wave of thinking.
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