Re: My private thoughts: "You all are like gnats at a picnic!" ChristyM: I agree with BBH. It takes a lot of patience but things will inevitably start to break down and the true colors will show through. You will always be glad you can look back on your actions and be proud of them. Take the high road.
My ex's g/f (fiance, whatever) is the same way. Just someone else to take care of everything for him ... including his thinking.
At least you being the adult in the situation will prevent your daughter from being on Jerry Springer!
Christy
Re: My private thoughts: "You all are like gnats at a picnic!" Bubba: Wait, where can I get a woman who will allow me to sleep while she takes care of my son??? Some how I don't think BBH will put up with that...
Re: My private thoughts: "You all are like gnats at a picnic!" tyrogers: Whatever Bubba.
Re: My private thoughts: "You all are like gnats at a picnic!" Smiley17: I'm so late getting into this thread!!!
Songbird - I know this is rough, but try not to let them get to you like this. Even if you're the one who takes care of it all, and sometimes the "bad guy" in your baby's eyes, you'll be the one who comes out on top in the end, when it really matters.
Like your stbx, mine slept in bed all day long while his mother took care of my kids, and he only had them for 6 hours!!!
Trust me, I know this is hard, but we moms are strong, and we WILL prevail!!! :-*
Re: My private thoughts: "You all are like gnats at a picnic!" ga_sunshyne: Songbird- I can relate. My XH has since our divorce moved in with the OW. She' like 10 years older than he is, and he is truly a wonderful father. We share joint custody and for the first 2 or 3 months he seemed to be handling it well. But alas, too much to do, too little time to do it in, so he had to bring in the GF to pick up his slack as well as the money that comes with her. Little does she know that he has a spending problem, which was the intial start of the breakdown of our marriage. So I feel for ya. My son has the outlook even before we were divorced that Daddy was the fun one, always ready to play, go to the movies, etc. Well Daddy was well into his playing whilst Mommy was at home taking care of all of the important stuff.
I totally agree with Smiley, in the end you will be the better person. I have dated a few guys but not found anyone that I have just clicked with. Now it seems though that when my son is with me, it is just he and I and occassionally a friend, but no one that interferes with our time together. Now it just seems that since it always used to be just he and Daddy and now the GF is in the pic, he is beginning to resent her. I have tried to be the better person and not make comments about either of them nor do I question him, they, on the other hand do just that. But once he is older (he's 11 now) he is gonna realize the big picture and I am afraid that he is gonna really resent her for his not having a family.
Be strong Songbird, it takes all I've got to be, but so far I am hanging in there.
Best of luck and many hugggs to you
Sunshyne
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