Re: Moving out moving on lostboy: Feel, I think She may wake up one day and realize what she's lost but honestly at this point I don't really care any more I'm just so tired..and it's time for me to start rebuilding my life and not worrying about what she thinks or doesn't because I'm tired of letting it affect me. I have so much more life to live and so much to give to my self and to someone else more deserving than she.
BTW..I think you have that strength.. you just need to realize it's there..
Sadaboutdad,
I have made it poignantly clear that I do not want to be friends with her at this point in time and that I need my distance to come to a resolution..but she just doesn't get it. I don't know what more I could do to get through to her. If you have any thoughts let me know..
toofast,
I don't even know if it's necesarily calousness. I have pretty much come to the conclusion that she's does not understand the concept of empathy. She can be thoughtfull and has been in the past but I'v never really seen her consider someone elses situation in respect to her own and I wonder if she even posses that capacity. I think for a lot of people to understand this they have to have experienced true hardship on their own..she never has.
Thanks eveyone for your input and suggestions.. It's good to hear your view points and really helpfull to get an outside perspective.
Keep well,
Lostboy
Re: Moving out moving on lostboy: Thanks Miss Moon,
I know I will be better off in the end.. everything happens for a reason.. or so I keep telling my self..(hugs) to you.. ;)
Lostboy
Re: Moving out moving on Dire Wolf: Good for you brother. A fresh now start without having anything to remind you of the pain she has so maliciously inflicted on you without reguard for your feelings will do wonders for your resolve and strengh. I'm sorry about your dog though, that companionship could really help right now. But at least you didn't have to get rid of her entirly and will still be able to see her at your parents house.
She has got to stop contacting you and pushing herself in your face. How can she not understand how hard this is on you. That is so selfish. Good luck and best wishes in your new life.
DW
Re: Moving out moving on unhappy: I think for a lot of people to understand this they have to have experienced true hardship on their own..she never has.
I think because she has this other person in her life she is not having to deal with all the emotions that come along with a break up.
As far as her stuff--if you really do not want to talk to her or see her go ahead box up her sh** and email her that you want it outby a certain day and time. I know that sounds mean but she leave no choice--it is a little childess that the other person is always in the back ground. Very disrespectful.
She can't help how she feels and it truely won't be right for her to stay with you if she doesn't love you and in time you will heal and move on...I pray you find peace and find a love you never knew you could have........
Re: Moving out moving on PickingUpThePieces: I'm sure it will feel good to have your own place and own space to recover and move on. I am looking forward to that also. I, too, am leaving a dog behind...my husband has remained in the home and the dog was his when he came to the relationship. Go to your parent's house and visit your dog as often as you can, it will make you feel better! I wish you lots of luck with your new place!
