Re: Makes you wonder... Bubba: You know the day will come for everyone. Some sooner then others. In my case, I have never been a guy who dwells much on "what ifs", and "why". However, I also hate not knowing things. I always want to figure things out. So, in my case it took about 10 months before I finally stopped asking, and just accepted it. Accepted it all, and now, well, now I never even think about it.
The day will come, and it will come slowly. You will find that one day you realize you haven't thought it about it in days, then weeks, etc.
Bubba
Re: Makes you wonder... ga_sunshyne: if i could get into the "weeks" phase of not thinking about it, i would be okay...i think ??? but he has not allowed me to get there. this month will be 7 mos since the divorce was final (he filed) but at least 5 or 6 times since then he has also initiated a reconciliation only to keep doing the same things. I just feel like he likes me in limbo. He still wants his cake and eat it too. I however am now at the point where I just have to put my foot down (or up somewhere else) and say look ure living w/OW evidently there is some sort of committment there...keep only unto her (since u couldn't do that with me). If he'll let it be..i ma be able to move on...but i have to not let him keep stringing me along.
sunshyne
Re: Makes you wonder... skooz: [quote author=ga_sunshyne link=topic=19068.msg172418#msg172418 date=1127392386">
For God's Sake...somebody please tell ME when that day is gonna come. One day I'll think it's here and the next BAM I'll wake up and that will be the first thought on my mind. [/quote">
It's the freakin' rollercoaster, Sunshyne. Give yourself sometime to adjust to all the feelings that come with this divorce crap. Like Bubba said, the day will come, you just have to be patient especially with yourself. I feel so full of clichés today, but have you heard about that thing about "taking it one day at a time?" -- That's the key.
Godspeed!
F.
Re: Makes you wonder... tyrogers: [quote"> but at least 5 or 6 times since then he has also initiated a reconciliation only to keep doing the same things.[/quote">
The next time he does it, YOU have to be the one to say NO. It's hard, but you have to be. He has the best of both worlds if you are allowing him to come back and "play" with you every now and then when he gets bored or lonely. Know what I mean?
BE STRONG!!! After all, you are a woman...I KNOW you can be strong!
<<BIG HUGS>>
BBH
Re: Makes you wonder... ga_sunshyne: Thanks All...I was strong last nite...he intiated a chat via cell phone w/me it was his b-day so I was nice b ut I cut him short and stood my ground...nope wasn't gonna do it!!! I was so proud of myself !!!! ;D
But then i was in tears once i got off the phone. Why I don't know....he was even chatting w/me w/gf in the same room....go figure....and no she ain't blonde!!!
Hanging in there!!
Sunshyne
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