Re: details of my divorce KdUb: I too was left in the dust by a Kelly - the love of my life. Or should I say - my OLD life.
Think about it this way (I'm trying to) - you have a new lease on life. A chance to make it better than it ever was.
Stop the drugs & alcohol as the others pointed out. It will only cloud your mind and the issues at hand.
Go to church - find your faith or renew it.
Go to the gym - Get healthy and fit (if you're not already). Make ALL the ladies want you - she'll take notice.
READ A LOT! - Use the net, use Barns & Nobles, or the library. LOTS of useful info. out there.
USE US! - I've only been here a little over a week and these guys have pretty much put me on the right track to get my life back! NO JOKE! (a special thanks to everyone)
Relax w/ friends & family - They still love you.
Don't torch your ex-best friends car just yet. Wait till Karma snags him by the ballz and then sit back and laugh your head off. (I'm still waiting for that with my STBXW & her new tool boy friend)
Don't do anything that will justify their actions. The best REVENGE is living a good life. That starts with yourself. Clean yourself up and you'll be alright.
That's it in a nutshell man. It's hard as hell but as someone else mentioned, we're all going through it or have been through it and they keep saying there IS life after the death of a marriage. God let's hope so. ;)
CHIN UP!
Keegan
Re: details of my divorce oiarbovnb: Thanks for all the responses. I know I should not drink, smoke or commit suicide. I am and have been getting professional help. I still have "bad" thoughts, but I'm not going to act on them. I do plan for one month to just do what I want, but after that I'm going to try and slowly rebuild my life.
I'm on anti-depressants and I'm seeing a therapist once a week.
Re: details of my divorce Erin: Sounds like you are doing a great job of taking care of yourself.
It may not feel like it, but all those things that you are doing are really good for you.
Use this site to get out what's going on in your head about this relationship. It really helps!
Re: details of my divorce oiarbovnb: So I went on a date Friday night, and had a pretty good time. I saw the girl on Sat and Sunday. We messed around but did not have sex. She seems like someone I could definitely be good friends with but I don't think I'd ever love her. I don't know why.
Is it wrong to mess around right now? It's only been a little over a month since the shit hit the fan.
I am taking personal time too, because I think I need time to grieve. I am very honest with her and tell her whats on my mind. I don't like secrets.
