Re: She's an A-HOLE! greg41: [quote author=LgHawaiian link=topic=19541.msg178090#msg178090 date=1128029924">
The question would be:
Do you want her to come back? Sit and ask yourself this before you ask anything else. Think about it for a good amount of time. Then, once you have answered this, you can see how it affects the questions beneath it.
Remember to try to keep a rational head and take things step by step in a logical fashion. I know the pain can be overwhelming, but stick with your head. If you stay logical and rational, you will be so proud of yourself when you come out of this, whatever direction it takes.
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I do and I don't. If she decides to want to work it out then great but the fear that she'll do this again is in the back of my head. She's done this before we were married and I thought she worked through it but I guess not.
Re: She's an A-HOLE! lghawaiian: [quote author=greg41 link=topic=19541.msg178104#msg178104 date=1128030841">
I do and I don't. If she decides to want to work it out then great but the fear that she'll do this again is in the back of my head. She's done this before we were married and I thought she worked through it but I guess not.
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Remember that it can be your decision to make though. I let my ex keep me in limbo for a week before she told me she was leaving me for one of my closest friends. It hurt me more than anything ever has before. I understand that you want to wait on her, but try to set a date for when you say enough is enough. You can't let her keep you hanging forever.
Re: She's an A-HOLE! dgiirl: aww, greg, i wish i knew something to take away the pain. I still feel like that after 7 months. The only thing you have to realize is you deserve better. You cannot control her, but you can control the way you react to her. Sure, calling her every name of the book sounds great, but would it really make you feel better or will it just give her more reasons to justify her actions?
My ex is an a$$ too. And just when things start to feel ok, he pops up on the radar. I just want to tell him to leave me the fsck alone, but I cant until everything is final. Just focus on what you want your life to become. She made this decision, but you can make it right! Make a better life for yourself without her! That's the best revenge.
Re: She's an A-HOLE! charmed: [quote"> Question number 2…..how long do I wait before I end it?[/quote">
My personal belief is that you can't set a specific date because you might put pressure on yourself and not be ready on that date, which could add to your stress.
A general date might work. But, for me, when I've pondered when to bring something to an end, it's when I get to the humiliating stage and say "enough's enough". When I feel more like a fool than I feel like someone that wants to hold on, I know it's time to make a change.
`charmed
