What do I do? lonelywithouthim: I am not "dating" the mentioned person, but we are spending endless hours on the phone every day. It just so happens he is going through the same thing I am (divorce, cheating spouse etc.) Actually we "met" on this site. Anyway, he mentions a lot that he really likes me, and we plan on meeting very soon... The problem I'm having is that I feel that i'm much further along in the healing process than he is, and he has days where he calls and she has yet again upset him. I try my best to be there for him, and tell him that it will get better, but I find myself getting depressed when this happens... Is this a normal thing? I have not asked anything from him but that he be my friend, he is the one telling me that he likes me and calls me all the time.. I just can't help but think that I may be setting myself up for a huge fall, which I am definitely not ready to deal with yet. Has anyone ever been through this and it actually end up working out? I'm just scared I guess :-\
Re: What do I do? Bubba: What kind of freak would hook up with somone on a divorce web site.....oh wait, never mind, I did :o. I would say it can work out, but to tread slow and careful. All you can do is take him at his word, and see where it goes. What is the worse that can happen? It doesn't work out and you go back to where you are now. If it works out then you will be glad you took the leap of faith.
Cheers
Bubba
Re: What do I do? lonelywithouthim: Thanks Bubba, that makes sense :) I guess I'm just overly paranoid :-\
lwh
Re: What do I do? bjs2005: Hate to say it but Bubba is more the exception than the rule. There are so many virtual couples or former couples on here that it's almost like one big love fest. The sad part is that people do get hurt in real life when things don't work out here.
I am a realist about it. Unless you live near enough to me that we could see each other on at least a weekly basis, I'm not even going to entertain a more than casual conversation. I am not leaving where I live and I wouldn't expect anyone else to come to me.
As I tell people, get off ojar and go out an meet real people. They can hold you, kiss you and tell you the same things people on here are doing. No one on here is that special that they can't be matched by a local person. Sorry to those who think that, but they're not, at least in my opinion.
There are great people here, men and women, but to think that there are not the same people, who have gone through the same things as you, that are just as attractive and just as supportive locally is crazy.
Re: What do I do? tyrogers: Sorry BJS. Local has nothing to do with it. You cannot help who you fall in love with. Do you think I wanted to fall in love with a man from Canada for Gods sake? That's just how it worked. Life's a bitch but you gotta roll with the punches. When you have something that is as GREAT as what I have with Bubba, you have to ask yourself. Do I want to let this "perfect for me" man go and try to find one that is "local" or do I go with my heart and stick it out? Lots of us stick it out. Sometimes, just sometimes, love CAN overcome the distance. Eventually it all works out. You just have to have patience. Lots of it. Some people don't have patience, which is why it does NOT work for them.
Anyway, rant off. ;D
Sorry for the hijack.
As far as the original question, just meet up with him and see where it goes. Ya never know! ;)
BBH
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