Re: Rage changed4ever: I still can't believe the nerve of some people. She's got to be kidding.
I did want to say that I can relate to your feelings about her newfound freedom while your home raising the kids. I went through this for months. Hey it's not like we signed up to be single parents. Personally, I've found a balance between the kids and going out. My stbx has the kids every other weekend so I use that time to get a life. I finally realized that I needed to move on also, meet new people, maybe start dating, have some adult fun and your not going to do that home with your kids every night. I did stay home every night for about 61/2 months until the kids were completely adjusted and I was beginning to heal emotionally (although I don't know if that process ever ends completely) I'm a happier person now that I started getting out and my kids have a happier mom. I'm not as bitter and angry. It's amazing what a few nights out can do for you. Does the ex take the kids on the weekends ( although being that boyfriend is such a big loser I'm sure that you don't want your kids around them)
By the way I do believe in karma and they're day is coming.
Re: Rage Dire Wolf: I have made it quite clear that my kids are to have zero contact with that man. He will in no way be an influence in their lives. So the only time I let her take the kids is when she is bringing them to her parents house. The will not step foot in the appartment and I wont let her in her because last time she stole $400 and $2500 worth of my sports cards(which I used my key to her Jeep to recover. Her Dad gave me $1000 of them so she is claiming those were hers but she took them all. I have promised thoe to my son since he was born and she knows this.) Plus I don;t want her going through my personal things. But this man not being an influence in my kids lives is my top priority. I set a great example for my kids that you work hard to get the things you want in life, not milk the system and get stoned all day.
Re: Rage Erin: I kicked the crap out of my bed and pillows this morning. That felt really good, and a lot cheaper than a punching bag!
Re: Rage changed4ever: I think you could write a book on the most screwed up things that can be done to a person. I dont know how the hell you control yourself.
I applaud you on putting your foot down with the loser having contact with your kids. I went back and read some of your earlier posts and man have you been through a lot. Letting go is a process, there are different stages and one of them is anger. Your feelings and reactions are normal. I think under the circumstance your handling this extremely well. It's only been two weeks, it will get better.
I was just curious to know if she's ever actuallly been diagnosed bi-polar and was she ever on meds. My cousin is bi-polar and has been successfully medicated for 4 years. But I understand that there are different types. Apparently your wife must have a much more severe case, because she seems to be acting completely out of character and self destructively and this episode seems to be lasting a while.
Stay strong for your kids because they are the most important. You will be rewarded one day. This I truly believe.
Re: Rage Feel: I have a rage to die for too...
I feel as if sometimes I want to hit him when he is around me and that is bad!
I don't go out with my friends, my son I have all the time because I choose too, i have no money to do anything and I get even more rage in me when I am grocery shopping and I am counting my pennies...
I can't even yell at the top of my lungs, let alone punch my pillow because my son follows me around the house and I don't want him to see me do that. So I wait until he goes to bed and cry all night long! I literally get 2 full hours of sleep a night and sometimes on my lunch drive over to my grandparents house to get a half hour in, and don't even eat!
My sanity is flying out the window and my last grips are trying to catch it!
So how do I control it when I can't even be alone... :-\
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