Re: My 5th Anniversary today dgiirl: [quote author=Chey link=topic=19568.msg178457#msg178457 date=1128086948">
One of the things I’ve learnt (a very hard lesson) is to start allowing others to help me, and not clam up and feel that my story isn’t worth their time.
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I never understood why people do this. I believe in sharing my story, because 1) I need help, but 2) I believe in sharing knowledge. As soon as I told people my story, I had a whole group of people telling me their story. They wanted to help me, so they told me what they went through and that helped me get through it. It also helped THEM because they kept it secret for a very long time and now they felt like a burden was lifted from their shoulders. People feel good for helping others. Do something nice, and let them help you. :)
Re: My 5th Anniversary today Chey: It's not that easy for others unfortunately. I'm not capable or built the same way to share my private feelings / emotions. I have never told my whole story on here because of the shame I feel about it, because I didn't want to "waste people's time"...because I felt like a Jerry Springer guest when I think about it, or even start talking about it.
Some of us have a habit of a lifetime of being the ones who "manage and cope"...and now some of us are learning to start talking about it.
It's just not easy. Even putting this post up nearly floored me...but I did it. I know it seems silly and alien to you lucky ones who have this wonderful ability to speak freely and purge yourselves, but I'm emotionall crippled perhaps in that I cant do it all in one go...:) I'm trying though!
Re: My 5th Anniversary today lostboy: Chey,
I can understand the need to mourn. But it's good to see you taking stock and solace in where you are today. I only hope that a year from my anniversary I am able to be as reflective and honest with my self.
Dgiirl is a smart cookie. I agree with her... The greatest lesson from all of this is that NO ONE determines your self worth but you. You are your own greatest asset.
It sounds like you'v come a very long way baby. Though I know you are feeling melancholly try remember all that you have now to be thank full for on this day as well.
I wish you peace and comfort on this day. (hugs)
Lostboy
Re: My 5th Anniversary today Erin: Keep trying to get it out Chey! It really does help.
Do something good for yourself today. Buy something new, have a long bath, eat some really good ice cream....
YOU DESERVE IT!
Re: My 5th Anniversary today dgiirl: [quote author=Chey link=topic=19568.msg178485#msg178485 date=1128089390">
It's not that easy for others unfortunately.
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Oh i know :( I didnt mean to sound inconsiderate with my post, but now reflecting on it, i might have been. I just wanted to give you some food for thought on why it's not selfish to tell your story. It actually does help other people. I, on the other hand, am TOO freely with telling my story and I need to learn to keep my emotions a little more in check. It's very hard. But that's what makes us all unique, and gives us different things to learn about ourselves. Why we do the things we do, and how to change them for the better :)
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