Re: I hate me so much..........

Re: I hate me so much.......... Spectrum: [quote author=Feel link=topic=19569.msg178470#msg178470 date=1128088432">
I am a robot and feel like one!
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This may not be such a bad thing.... If you can go through the mechanics of day-to-day just to get yourself through, pretty soon it will seem less mechanical. Then after a while, you'll realize that you're actually happy again, and you won't be able to pinpoint where it happened, but it will happen sure enough!

[quote"> I don't think he wants to leave but at the same time he wants me to live with all his priorities stuck up his butt!![/quote">

Unfortunately, there isn't really any difference between "not wanting to leave, but feeling like you have to" and "wanting to leave." It all comes down to the fact that one or both parties feels like things aren't working. We mourn what we loved about our relationships, and we mourn what we thought our relationships should have been. It is a painful process whether you "want" it or not.

[quote"> an someone tell me why he first tells me he doesn't want to go on and then he feels the need to want o hold me and make love to me?
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Because much like you, he is lonely and mourning your relationship (see above). Just because you feel like you are unhappy within a relationship or that it doesn't work doesn't mean you necessarily stop loving the person. I know in my experience my ex (who had an affair) begged, and pleaded, and hugged me and made love to me during the divorce, all the while keeping his OW hanging on and basically "stashing her in the closet" whenever I was around.

Please, PLEASE remember that affection, lovemaking and attention have zero correlation with him wanting to stay if he is telling you that he is unsure or telling you otherwise.

Spectrum.