Re: THE ULTIMATUM tyrogers: I agree that she should make the decision before she goes off for the weekend to Vegas with this man. I mean, if she is that worried about it, he would not be there or either she would not be there.
I know you are hoping against all odds that she is being truthful when she says she is not sleeping with him...ummm...she's sleeping with him. No doubt.
I commend you on making the ultimatum, but giving her the weekend with him and waiting on her to return from a fun filled weekend with the other man is not good.
I don't know. I don't want to sound harsh, because I know you still hold onto the hope that she will come back. My whole point is WHY WOULD YOU WANT HER BACK? You will never trust her again. Don't you deserve someone who treats you with RESPECT? Someone who loves you for YOU? Sorry. I remember when I felt this way about sticking it out with my cheating ex. Then, one day, I realized that I DESERVED MORE. I DESERVED BETTER.
Good luck with your struggles and I hope it all works out for you.
BBH
Re: THE ULTIMATUM Lumpy: [quote author=charmed link=topic=19582.msg178825#msg178825 date=1128110015">
Her going to Vegas with this guy almost makes a mockery out of anything she says.
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I'd take the almost out of that sentence. I hate to say this KDub but I think she's already answered your question for you.
Re: THE ULTIMATUM ajw: you did the right thing because you had to give her the ultimatum sooner rather than later,but i do fear the fact she's spending the next week with this guy in her room(and despite whatever she tells you,they are fucking),and he has her all to himself for a weeka,nd has a week ti fill her with lies that he's the only one who really loves her.....I hope it works,but i dont think this guy is going to play by the rules....sorry
I hope he does for your sake
Andy
Re: THE ULTIMATUM KdUb: Funny - I haven't read any responses since I posted it but came up with the same conclusion......
NOT WAITING UNTIL NEXT WEEK!
I called her and flat out told her that if she goes to Las Vegas with him (for work or not) that it was final. No waiting until next Friday. I would have the papers ready to sign on Monday afternoon.
She said she couldn't not go cause she already told her work she was going and had obligations. I told her to tell him not to go and I would go in his place and she said she couldn't do that. I told her my mind was made up then. We're through.
I asked if she was prepared to throw the rest of her life away on this predator and she said, "I guess I have to be".
I said, "DONE!" and hung up the phone.
Why did it take me this long (two months) to FINALLY realize it's FRIGGIN OVER!
What a moron.
Re: THE ULTIMATUM Lumpy: You're not a moron! You're just not willing to throw your marriage away without a fight. In my eyes you've done everything you could. She has no choice? Is this guy holding a knife to her throat? She's the moron.
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