Venting about family kfc75: I have come to a realization, the one thing I am mourning more than anyone other part of my relationship is a dream, the dream of the perfect little family, the American dream, Mom, Dad, House, 2.4 kids. It’s gone, and it’s not something you can get a second chance at, everything else maybe you get to do over, but the perfect little family that’s gone forever. Sure you can fall in love again, re-marry, buy a new house, even have more children, but the one thing you can’t get back is that perfect little world for your kids. I remember growing up in a merged family, I remember being jealous of all the attention my step brothers and ½ sister got from my step dad, I always felt left out on some level, like I wasn’t quite a full member of the club, I know my step brothers felt the same way about my mom, they thought she liked me best, maybe she did, how can you accept someone else’s children as completely as you can your own, when that parental bond isn’t there? Then you have the weekends, brothers and sisters go to see their mom or dad, the family scatters in different directions, some get to do this, others get to go on that trip, everyone wants to do what the others are doing, but there not invited, “hey that’s not my kid why should I let them come along?” That perfect family is something special… we should treasure it and protect it, continually work on our relationships to make sure we hold that family together like glue, but when it all falls apart what can you do? Just accept it, move along, do the best you can for your kids. It’s not meant to be this way! I didn’t want my children to grow up like this, I wanted better for them than what I had! DAMN IT!
Re: Venting about family skooz: I'm sorry you have to see your kid going through the same kind you had to live. What can I tell you? I have no idea of what it feels like to think about your children living with split parents, but I've heard stories about its being a rewarding experience for them, having two loving families. Maybe I'm just talking crap, maybe I just wish everything will turn out for the best for you and your kid. You're thought of!
Re: Venting about family kfc75: [quote author=Frogster link=topic=19583.msg178707#msg178707 date=1128104190"> I've heard stories about its being a rewarding experience for them, having two loving families.[/quote">
Sure two loving families are better than one with hate and bitterness in the air... but whats better than one loving family?
You can spin it anyway you want, but I believe thats just the way it's supposed to be.
Re: Venting about family skooz: That's why I said maybe I was talking crap... Wait, not maybe... I AM talking crap! What do I know, really! I guess I would feel the same way if I had children, so all I can do now is be sympathetic and tell you to try to look at it in a positive way, which may be really difficult now, but only you have the power to make a better life than the one you have now, for you and your boy.
Cheer up and I'll invite you to the rolling bar one of these days, so we can dance reggaeton. I have some cute friends. Heh.
Re: Venting about family lonelywithouthim: [quote author=KFC link=topic=19583.msg178731#msg178731 date=1128105399">
You can spin it anyway you want, but I believe thats just the way it's supposed to be.
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I agree... I always said, even to my spouse, "I'm never getting divorced." I never wanted my kids to go through the hell that I did. I guess that's just life and we can only hope that we will feel differently some day.
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