Re: friends disappearing getreal: "REAL" friends are like stars....you may not always see them....but you know they are always there.
Not sure why your male friends are not there now, I only know they did not turn out to be "Real"
TC=take care
Re: friends disappearing jfb: My friends have not disappeared exactly, but they show relatively low tolerance for my current situation. I don't blame them, I bloody miserable -> primarily because I had to leave the marriage, and this interrupted everything that was important to me. Sometimes I'm bitter..and that is, unfortunately, when I want to talk to them the most.
My friends and family also do not appear to understand what divorce means and how disruptive it can be. Very few of my friends or family members are divorced. They are often at a complete loss for words. Sometimes, I develop a little bit of anger over this. Rather then express it, I'll avoid them for a while. My friendship hasn't been that consistent, as a result.
I feel that as I get out of the funk I'm currenly in, they will eventually come around.
As yet, I have not lost a friend over this divorce. No one is taking sides for the time being. That is a relief.
Re: friends disappearing missycristin: I like wallowing in self pity and I imagine I am not all that much fun to be around. I only have one close friend here, the rest are just people I go out with from time to time, like drinkin' buddies. The close friend I have,
kind of fell by the way side when I was with my ex, b/c he was male, and someone I dated in the past. When we did hang out, my ex was usually there too. Anyway, he's the only one who is supportive of me right now even though he has the biggest reason not to be.
It's very depressing esp. when I know that my ex has ten of his boys backing him up every weekend.
While I just sit here and cry.
Re: friends disappearing summerparis: Unfortunately break-ups do have a way of polarizing people and making them choose "sides". Do you have other friends that you can talk to at this time? The fact that these are his friends means that you'll be hearing about the ex, and that they will be telling him about you. Sure, it's nice to keep tabs on him vicariously through his friends, but I don't think it's helpful to you in the long run.
