Friends?

Friends? Dharma Bum: I have 6 friends where I live. Two are married couples, the others just got engaged. 4 of them are heading to a weekend up north this weekend. Feeling a little left out. Now that my dogs are being sent to the MIL's for a while, I have no reason to go to MY house where my wife lives, right now, so I will have no laundry any longer. Asked the other couple if I could use theirs ocasionally and they said no because they wanted to remain neutral. Felt a little bad about that. I worshipped the ground my wife walked on, she decided she was a lesbian and said "we're getting divorced" and then started calling and meeting with a guy, secretly, about a month later and is still carrying on with him. "Neutrality" seems like "too coward to say what's right and what's wrong." What a pisser. Maybe I'm just being a baby, but I don't see how letting someone use your washer and dryer (I offered to pay, and I was going to bring my own detergent and stuff) once a week is breaking the Neutrality Treaty. I thought neutral friends was cool until my wife started playing head games with me, now it just sounds like cowardice.
Re: Friends? unhappy: how rude of your so called friends not to be there when you need them.
sorry -- life has dealt you a rough hand. hopefully you can make some new friends --real friends. i hope that your friends ask you for a favor sometime...

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Re: Friends? dumpling: i agree, that seems totally bogus that they wouldn't let you use the washer and dryer. allowing you to use their facilities while you stayed out of her hair is what a good friend would have done to keep the peace in their friends' lives. obviously they do not care. and they are cowards. they don't need to take a side, it is a load of laundry! i actually love to do laundry and don't have any to do now- i'll do it for you!

Re: Friends? Trillian: I agree....with what unhappy said....

Re: Friends? Dharma Bum: I've been really torn over these friends. My wife is leaning on the female in the pair heavily, or was, now they just sort of meet and talk about nothing, supposedly. I have never pressed any of my friends (all of our friends were mutual) for information about my wife, what she's doing or who with, etc. I talk about how I feel and about how her decisions are affecting me, and I let them decide whose "side" to be on, but I have never asked them to take sides, etc. I get along well with them both and I think they are attempting to do the "right" thing, but to me it just seems like they don't want confrontation with one or the other. I tell it like it is, as nicely as possible, but there is no mistaking what my opinions are, so riding the fence like this is hard for me to understand, I guess. But it seemed weird that laundry would put them in the middle of things. Strange.

Also, these friends are very very close to the situation. Wife's new "boyfriend" is the guy's oldest friend, they covered for her a little before I knew about it, etc. I guess I should tell them to f-off, but I think my wife put them in a compromised position, originally, and now they realize she is messed up and they just want to stay out of things alogether. I don't know. "Getting new friends" is easier said than done.

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