Friends & Saturday's Debbie: It has been two weeks since my husband told me he wanted a divorce. Saturday's are now the most difficult day of my entire week. Last Saturday I invited him out to lunch to discuss things. I will never do that again. He actually told m, "What did you think that if we went out to lunch I was going to tell you oh Debbie I have made such a horrible mistake and I want you and the girls {dogs} to move back into the house and lets give it a try." He then laughed and said that will never happen. I somehow did not cry during the hour and half of emotional and verbal abuse he was giving to me, I had been experiencing it for seven years, But why on every Sat it hurts so much? I am crying as I write this and no matter how unfair and abusive he has been to me it still hurts, I have not cried in a couple of days now and I thought I was getting better but come Sat my eyes become rivers. Then I feel guilty because I am at a friends house and I do not want to bother her with my feelings, It seems that ever one of my friends has someone but me. I do feel like a failure but only on Sat, Please write to me I need some encouragement to get through my day.
Re: Friends & Saturday's Erin: Oh sweetie I feel your pain. Weekends were the time usually spent with your loved one. I hate them too. They are so hard for me.
You are getting stronger. You were able to get through his verbal and emotional abuse without crying. You've made it through these past couple of days without crying.
If Saturday is the only day that you'll cry so be it. This whole journey is a rollercoaster ride of emotions.
If you need to cry, yell, scream, whatever, do it. Get it out of you, it is all part of the process.
Start making plans for yourself on Saturdays, maybe that will help make it easier. Even if it as simple as going for a bi walk with your girls...
(((HUGS)))
Re: Friends & Saturday's biamiyumba: It's funny how we all have our little triggers. For you it is Saturday. For me it is church. For some reason if I go to church I will howl with angst and sorrow. But I can avoid church in my low hours. Obviously Saturday can never be avoided. I agree. Plan something on Saturday, something active, different and unusual - a bushwalk perhaps. Exercise all day and you will be too exhausted at night to think about pain - except perhaps the pain in your legs. Good Luck
Re: Friends & Saturday's changed4ever: HUGS to you. You are not a failure, he's a failure. Try to keep yourself busy, there's less time to dwell. He's obviously abusive(my stbx was also) you deserve to be treated better. Please consider the no contact thing. It worked wonders for me and really helped me to heal. Good luck to you.
Re: Friends & Saturday's lost enigma: Oh boy,
You are an incredibly strong person for enduring that. I think if i were in that position i would have no slef respect for myself. I would beg him to come back to me. I applaud you for your strength. :)
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