Re: Faking it ... alonewith2: We lie to those around us about how we really are feeling for two reasons.
1. It's still us trying to think of others. We feel they don't want to hear it, or they want us to be happy.....so we give them that.
2. We hide the feelings in the back of our minds when we are around others to also protect ourselves. What if they aren't going to justify my feelings? Does talking about it make it real?
The only people we hurt by lying is ourselves, but we all do it....
Re: Faking it ... WhiskeyGirl: We all fake it....I mean with people we arent that close with, geez I am not going to run through all my emotions and feelings with everybody who asks me how I'm doing in a given day :o
It takes a bit to get to know someone enough to trust them with that stuff, and yeah, lots of times people do just want the standard "I'm fine" answer.....so that is what they get ;)
ISO said in the other thread "fake it til you make it" I agree with this! Honestly to some degree your "fake" good mood does rub off on you and somehow becomes an actual good mood. Its like you can trick yourself into being happy ;D I usually feel pretty good but I do have down days...when I feel myself getting in a funk I just start acting the opposite and I swear Wammo! I am happy again. Self talk! Try not to wallow in all that is wrong in life but think about everything that you ARE blessed with....good thoughts can't help but rub off on your mood!! :D
Re: Faking it ... husky: hi angel.
i have been faking a number of things as well.
on the surface, i seemed fine to my friends. but when i am alone, it is another story altogether, especially at night when i start thinking about the past. i still cried my eyes out but the next day, i act normal in front of people. maybe it's because i do not want to appear as a loser in front of them and also, they are probably tired of hearing about this after so many months. i have broken up for almost 4 months now and it seems rather pathetic that i shld still be whining and feeling miserable over my ex, so i pretend i am over him. the fact that he is a jerk made me even more unwilling to show my unhappiness in front of other people. i have met some other guys but i still can't get my ex out of my mind.
sometimes i want to tell everyone the truth: I AM MISERABLE. I MISS HIM, JERK OR NOT. I CAN'T MAKE MYSELF DATE ANYONE ELSE. I CAN'T GET HIM OUT OF MY MIND. LIFE SUCKS! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!
Re: Faking it ... Dharma Bum: I fake things in front of patients, obviously, but when a friend asks me how I am and I feel like $hit, I tell them. Then we talk about it and I feel better. It may not be what they want to hear, but I think my friends and my family need to know how this ordeal has affected me and truly what's going on in my life. It will definitely sort out the real friends from the wannabes.
