Re: Her Reply thehitekrednek: How can I move on with so much love left for her in me?
Re: Her Reply alonewith2: The pain she has caused you is not going to erase the love you have for her. You have loved her deeply for so long, and thinking that the love will just disappear is not going to help.
But instead of focusing on that love or the past, you need to really look at what she is doing now....how she is treating you, how she is making you feel now.
We suggest moving on as a way to help you put distance between yourself and the past. The past is what it is....the past. She's chosen to be with someone else. It hurts, and it's going to keep hurting if you continue to focus on how things used to be.
Re: Her Reply changed4ever: You have to move on and you will in time. I agree with jadedangel, she's saying this stuff to make herself feel better about what she did. My stbx fed me the same crap and still does. He says things like you're the best thing that ever happened to me, I'll always love you, I'm so sorry, I didn't want this to happen to us. Then why the f*ck are you living with your girfriend??? It's all bs, they made their choices freely and willingly and when he tell me he'll always love me, my response is "you don't even know what love is". My favorite line in your wife's response is "don't move on believing that I never loved you, I did, I do but" - what the hell are you supposed to do with that, but make yourself crazy trying to figure out that if she loves you why can't we be together. Please do yourself a favor and go ahead with the no contact, it will help you see things clearer. Hang in there.
Re: Her Reply bigblue: hmmm... this is strange... I keep reading your previous posts...
If you were my brother this is what I would tell you.
1- was she always like this?
2- I understand she left the kids. Has she been a good mother
3- any drug/alcohol abuse in the past
4- she is in self destruction mode, DO not let her pull you into this
5- she is acting like a little girl. You want a woman and a partner in life. where is the Mom, where is the woman inside her? was the woman always there, or were you in a father-daughter relationship? she is describing you as someone who saved her life. But maybe she thought you never loved her as a woman. and with this loser, she feels she is a woman since she is the one who needs to take care of him.
6- how was her relationship with her father
Again, I am not asking you these questions for you to answer. Just to think about.
I will e-mail you with the self help programs I listen to. Your mind has so many demons that's why you are confused.. be calm, you will reach peace.
Re: Her Reply fiona: Just remember, it's not words- it's actions. When in relationship conflict, I think you can only trust about 50% of what they say (if even that) good or bad. People just can't think clearly and they'll say things for the sake of making themselves or the other person feel better. The only thing you can trust are the actions of another. If they walked away from you. They don't want you. They don't deserve you. Period.
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