Re: Is it normal for kids to seem happier after split??? in_search_of: Unfortunately its impossible to make him be a good parent, and to put his kids needs in front of his own. I would stop the overnight visits for now, just so that he knows that you are serious about taking action if he doesn't do what is best for the kiddos! That might be enough to wake him up, who knows.
Other than that, all you can do is set a good example for your kids, and hope that they take after you and not him!
Re: Is it normal for kids to seem happier after split??? JTS: Definately take action and let your local child avocate know what is going on. If you haven't yet, start documenting EVERYTHING that you find out about. Do not question the kids about what is going on at his house but as they tell you things make sure you keep a journal and document it. I have been having the same problem as you with my ex and her boyfriend staying over. If you aren't divorced yet you can also add a provision that states that guests of the opposite sex are not allowed to spend the night while the kids are there. Don't just give up though. You have to be the bigger person, set the good example, and fight on the kids behalf.
MJ
Re: Is it normal for kids to seem happier after split??? alonewith2: My kids seem happier, too. My 7 year old could tell that things "weren't right" and now he knows there's less stress in the air!! Both of them are happy to have mommy back full time....I had my hours changed at work, so they see more of me now!!
Funny, how there's more stability with one parent then there was with two!! I rock!! ;D
Re: Is it normal for kids to seem happier after split??? twobeautifulkids: My kids seem pretty happy. They were happy before, they are happy now. A friend of mine noted that my 5 year old seems more sociable now. It may or may not be a product of the split. I do know that this has forced tbx to spend more time w/ the kids. I also spend more quality time w/ the kids since I feel no pressure to keep the house clean or have a really nice meal on the table. I do what I can do when I can do it. The kids are smiling and much of the time, so am I. :)
