missing the kids lost in midland: I have come along way in getting over the ex-wife. My problem is missing my two boys. (age 6 & 9). My ex has bf with two kids, They like my boys however my boys say that the bf's kids say mean things about my ex and that upsets them. I am friends with the bf's ex-wife and we are good friends. She informs me her kids don't like my ex because she took thier moms place. I know she dosn't tell her kids to dislike her, however I don't think she stops them from speaking thier mind. I just want my kids to be happy as possible and I miss them so.
Can anyone help?
Re: missing the kids AloneandCold: Maybe have a talk with your children on why the other children say the things they do. At 7 and 9 children often understand a lot more then we give them credit for. They may not feel so bad if they understand its not necessarily their mom, its just the situation. Good Luck, divorce and mixed families are hard on kids. Sometimes all you can do is make sure they know you love them.
Re: missing the kids lost in midland: I try to make every day that I have with them great!!!!! I always tell them Mommy and daddy love you very much and its not you fault. I have never said a bad thing about thier mother in front of them. So i'm trying to do the right thing. I have been in a few short realationships and I don't let them meet the women I date. I did that with the first girl I dated after the divorce and they still ask about her. I know they need thier mother in in thier life, however as they get older I hope they make a decision on thier own to live with me. Right know its 50/50 and they tell me they like the fact that they don't have to share me with anyone or anyones kids. I told them someday I my meet someone and that could happen. However they will always be my everthing.
Re: missing the kids AloneandCold: You sound like a wonderful dad. I am sure with your support, no matter what they will be alright. And its good you point out someday they may have to share you. It may help prepare them for when it happens. Good Luck.
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