Re: No contact, no change... bigblue: spinningincircles:
well... it is very hard.. actually my break up happened 10 days ago and I called him once. actually I am the one that has brought up the suggestion for break up, but my husband was passive aggressive and was just going with the flow... since he doesn't like conflict he forced me to break up with him with sabotaging the relationship.
anyway, I am fighting my demons. i lost 7 lbs in 7 days, my father came all the way from my home country and I want to look strong... but you know what, it is OK to have fear, anger and sense of loss... you are going through a huge loss...
BUT, I think you can avoid even when he will come to pick up clothes. I would disappear from the house and if he wants to leave you the bill let him put it in the mailbox... he will be shocked when he sees this behavior... you will shock yourself too..
I never thought, I had the courage to not call someone I love for 10 days.. well, it has been an eye opener. also I am also observing myself, how I come to rescue of all people to find myself become the victim.. listen to your feelings, however don't listen to your fear. see it, but keep moving...
good luck... don't see him. keep you head held up high, worship yourself and make him lose you totally.
Re: No contact, no change... lost enigma: Ohh, i feel for you with this long weekend too
I decided to go into work to stop this pain.
it helps, but my story is a long twisted soap oprea that should not have even happened.
I am so lonely, i want to call, but his family is around. Oh man, i know my family is expecting him too.
Be strong, we'll make it
