Re: Stuck in Limbo lost enigma: She wants the best of both worlds at your cost
Dont let her. She will do it again. I am sorry to say.
We're here for you. Vent everytime u need too
Re: Stuck in Limbo narca: Thanks for the replies. At this point we have done therapy and it didn't help. Just yesterday she stated that the OM was out of the picture completely. I don't know if I can believe her - she has lied many times in the past. She wants to work the marriage out but says her head is a complete mess right now and doesn't know if she can work the marriage out. She's now talking trial separation. She leaves, I stay with the kids. I don't think this will help with my marriage and said I was against it asking her how two people can work on a marriage when only one of them is there? She didn't have an answer but stated she needed to get away. I'm beginning to think that the trial separation will be the final nail in my marriage. Am I being too hasty in assuming that or should I just see how it plays out? I'm also thinking this might be a way for her to see the OM without feeling guilty since she'll be living like she single again. Sorry if I starting to sound paranoid. That's just how I feel.
Re: Stuck in Limbo bigblue: she needs to see a therapist... individually.. and on the side you can also have family therapy. at this point, this is in her, and she has to solve it. if someone is unhappy and confused all their relationships are screwed up...
you will know more as you go through this. but keep with therapy, if you give up you will never resolve these issues... it takes time. everyone has issues. even therapists have to go to therapists before they start counseling...
hang in there.
