Stepfathers curse wolly1234: Don't you know how much I came to love them? How much I loved you all. You were my family. You were my life. It isn't fair that I lose it all, because you weren't willing to work it out. They will alwasy be your children, but now, they are no longer mine. Not in anyones eyes, but mine, anyway. The daughter I gave my name to, you have turned against me. The son I didn't get to see graduate from boot camp. All the things I lived for, are now gone. Along with you. That is what the promise of forever was supposed to be. Us,,, to grow old together. To watch the kids have kid of thier own. But now I am just an ex-stepparent. And what is that? Not much I am coming to realize. All we did together to guide them to where they are now. All the love we gave them. And the hard times that we overcame. Everyone says for me to move on, but how? You can't just wake up one day and no longer love your children. I can't. I won't. ANd if you were any kind of human being you would understand that. As much as I love you, as much as I miss you, I have a hard time forgiving you for not giving me the peace of a continued relationship with the kids I cherish. Put that on top of our smashed wedding vows, that you never took seriously, and I wonder what I ever saw in you. You lied. Over and over again. I was a fool to love you. But not them. Even if they never know it, they will ALWAYS be in my heart. And I miss them. One more hug, one more day, one more kiss goodnight. One more morning together. One more smile. BUt you are gready, and think that is only yours. Maybe someday they will understand that biology doesn't equal love. I will always be here for them. When you get over your own fears, you yourself will understand that a child can't have too many people to love them, and you robbed them of this, because of all my faults, that was the one thing I did perfectly. My love for them, and for you for that matter, was pure. I love them. And I miss them. Damned you for letting me be a father, only to take it away.
Re:Stepfathers curse Spectrum: **hugs**
I can't even imagine what you must be going through, but if I could send you a real hug, I would.
I know things aren't easy right now, but I'm sure your stepchildren are missing you too. Deep down, they have to know and appreciate that you love them.
Sometimes when these things happen people find themselves in a situation where they don't know how to reach out, or feel like they can't. If your feelings towards them are any indication, your stepchildren must feel like they've had a parent taken away from them. When they feel like they can, I'm sure they will tell you this, and tell you that they care about you too.
In the meantime, I'm thinking of you.
Spectrum.
Re:Stepfathers curse Safetykc: Ahhh....the wonderful stepparents curse :'( :'( :'(
Living that dream....
I loved those kids like they were my own flesh and blood. She couldnt have anymore, they were my kids...for a while, then gone, like I never existed...now I get to see the new boyfriend in the pics with them...
God I miss them, goodnight stories, helping with homework, soccer games, the hugs, the fun...even the work. Helping them with science questions, telling jokes in the car driving them to school every morning...my stepdaughter not able to sleep until I came up to give her goodnight snuggles...ugh...ugh..ugh..
Ok...deep breaths...sorry, a nerve was struck tonight...i will be better tomorrow. :(
Replaced by McDad...in just under 4 months...blah :P
YeeHah...
:P
Re:Stepfathers curse barelybreathing: I am so sorry.
Step-parents do lose out. The laws are just not in place for step-parents to continue with any visitation and access to the stepchildren. No matter how long the time period of the marriage was.
This breaks my heart. I am sorry.
BB
Re:Stepfathers curse andyman8007: wow i know how you feel wooly. on the eve of my divorce being final all i have are memories. he will be the son i never had. i love you CHAD.
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