stbx dating already wolly1234: She didn't wait very long. A few weeks. I don't get it. She promised her daughter she would wait at least a year. This can't be good for the kids. Maybe she was before I even left. How can a mother put her kids through that? wouldn't it have been a good time to focus on them? Time to make sure thier issues are addressed? Of course tge though of her with someone else hurts, but the thought of them having to deal with it hurts more. What lesson is she teaching them by dating a few weeks after a seperation from a 6+ year marriage? What do they learn about priorities? Commitment? We are still legally married. I wasn't a wifebeater. If wasn't that bad for her, or them. We had a nice life that she simply decided to throw away without regard for me, or more importantly, them. How can a mother do that? I just don't get it. It creates a legacy. A poor one as far as I am concerned.
Re:stbx dating already Safetykc: Welcome to the club...At least mine didnt bring the married with 3 kids coworker she was having an affair with around them...
But a month after seperation her profile was out on singles.com...
Then 2 months out dating this new guy...now a month post divorce they are talking about getting a place together...blah...
This from the same woman who looked up at me with tears in her eyse a few months ago and said she needed to learn how to live on her own now...and wanted to take the time to focus her energy on the kids...that lasted as long as it took to order a Big Mac....where she met this guy at....blah :-X
Wish I had better advice for you Wolly, except to say you aren't alone.
Take care man....
Safety
Re:stbx dating already incoherentlonghorn: Is she bringing men around the kids??? I'm assuming they are older since one just became a marine and she promised her daughter she wouldn't date.
I personally would avoid interaction between the two since I find this unhealthy at this point. Breaking her promise sucks and it must hurt for her to move on so fast.
My feelings of paralysis stemming from my Distant2BX's actions never depart.
Let it go...my favorite saying is one day the kiddos will understand and it reflects poorly upon her...even though you wish the best for her and clearly the kids.
