I despise my ex janee: Currently, I am going through a divorce. When we decided to end the marriage, (he lived and still lives out of state) he shut off my phone without telling me, had utilities shut, and did a smear campaign. He told all of our friends I was having an affair and I was NOT!!! Those friends took his side. The only way we are communicating is through attorneys. I am still living in the house we shared. I have paid the mortgage for the last year. He has not contributed one cent. This is before we decided to divorce. Yet he wants me to refinance the house, which is worth 144 k to 150k so he can get some lump sum of 20k to pay off his debts. I understand I have to buy him out, but he is asking for a ridiculous amount. There is no equity in the home. I am doing everything my attorney has said, as far as refinancing. I am getting preapproved so my attorney can present it to his attorney. The ex wants me to be miserable. He wants me to be screwed over. He would rather see me living on the street. I have supportive friends and family, but unless someone has been through this, no one truly understands. Divorce is temporary insanity. Compounded with an a**h**e! And I feel mistrustful of others. And I have found out who my true friends are. I am avoiding contact with anyone who talks to my ex because it could hurt my case. Just need to blow off steam!
Re:I despise my ex finney5: I understand your frustration, having been through a somewhat similar (although not nearly as hostile) situation.
The best friends agreed to stay out of it and try to remain friends with both. You definitely find out who your true friends are.
I think you'd only have to give him half of whatever equity's in the house. If there are any projects that you've started on (remodel a room, etc) get an estimate. I think you can use that to deduct from the equity. Also, don't forget to take potential realtors fees out of the equity.
Just remember that not everyone is like the jerk. There are a TON of trustworthy ppl and the worst thing that he could do to you is make you forever jaded.
Welcome and this is the perfect place to blow off steam!
Re:I despise my ex Safetykc: Welcome and sorry you are going through this.
It is tough, but we are all here to listen and support.
Blow off steam anytime and don't let the anger get the better of you.
Take care,
Safety
Re:I despise my ex Buggs: Bienvenue (welcome)
Sorry you have to be dealing with this situation - take some time to review the OJAR section on legal issues Attorneys etc....the last thing you want is for you to go through all this crapola and have to fork out your entire half of equity in legal fees.
best of luck to you, post, post, post you'll find many people's advice helpful
Cheers
Re:I despise my ex ChrisJane: My heart goes out to you. I've found guilty party usually turns things around to make the innocent one look bad.
Do what your attorney tells you. If you feel unsure with something he/she says always research or consult someone.
Blow off steam as often as you can, don't hold the stress in.
He may think he's going to screw you, but in the end he'll see he's the one that got screwd--you'll get your life together and have a better life then him!
Good Luck.
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