Daycare BONILLAK: My kids have never ever been left in the care of anyone other than me or their father. I mean no one has ever watched them not even family. I now need to look for fulltime work and wondering how bad its going to be to have to put my 3yr old in full time daycare and my 8yr old on before/after care? Do you feel like a bad parent? Are the kids really happy without Mom being there full time? Will my kids hate me for this? I feel really bad but I have no choice at this point. Thanks for any advice.
Re: Daycare starzluv: i recently had to put mine in daycare too. my 6 year old was fine with it. i think it was easier for him because he was already use to not being with me all the time because of school. my 5 year old was scared at first, but after the first day she was excited to go. my problem is with my 2 year old. she is a total mommas girl, and is very clingy when i drop her off and again when i pick her up. it is hard to leave them in day care, and i feel like i should be the one taking care of them, not a daycare, but at the same time, me working is for them. unfortunately the job i have that is suppose to be full time only has me working 2-3 days a week if i'm lucky
Re: Daycare Suddenly Single: You have to do what you have to do to take care of them. The 3 year old might adjust well.....he or she will have other kids to play with and will be in preschool next year.....I dont' think they will hate you. They will love you for working so hard to take care of them.....they might now see it now so young but they will know.
Good Luck! SS
Re: Daycare Trillian: B~
I had to deal with this. I think that you are a strong parent to realize that you need to work to provide for your children...how does that make you a bad parent? Although, I do understand the hardship and feelings going through you when you HAVE to make this discision.
I for one, can say that my children have actually grown from the experience. My 10 yr old has a better self esteem now then she did when she stayed home with her Dad. My 6 yr old loves it also. Of course, I was lucky and found an awesome family that are willing to do a great job for me for a really good deal. Your kids will probably struggle to begin with BUT as time goes by, they will realize why you are doing it...and they will NOT hate you for it. They will love you. I know that I had problems with depression from leaving my girls with someone....but that changed after my oldest told me that she loved me more for doing what I thought was right then staying home with them.
I think that your 3 yr old will probably adjust better then your 8 yr old. It seems that when they are younger, they accept it more, then when they get older.
Good luck and I hope that helped...
Re: Daycare changed4ever: I was in your shoes a months ago. My 3 year old is in daycare and my 6 year old is in after school. The first few days were a little rough, but now my 3 year old loves it. My 6 year old adjusted with no problems. They are a little clingy when I pick them up and we go home. They need a lot of hugs and attention and then they're ok. In my situation, I had to go back to work full time to support us. There really was no other way and thank God it turned out ok so far. Just thought I should warn you that it's exhausting, working full time with the kids. I'm totally wiped by the end of the day. Good luck to you. They will be ok.
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