How do you deal with paralysis and inactivity? MichaelMail: Hello,
I have been working at my office throughout my break up and post break up periods. The last few weeks have been very difficult for me to focus on my work and keep up with things that I need to do. I have been tempted to resign my position but am trying not to do that, since I will eventually need to find a new job which maybe be worse than this one.
Do you know any ways for me to motivate myself back to being productive on a level that I was at before my break up rather than the 15% or less that I am putting in now?
Vacation right now is not an option and I would prefer not to tell my boss that my stress and depression due to the break up are killing my productivity or ability to concentrate. Going on a personal leave of absence for a month sounds toxic to me
Re: How do you deal with paralysis and inactivity? MichaelMail: Exactly,
I find being on OJAR very comforting and the good people here can really relate to what I am going through. Unfortunately its not reducing my workload. It does make it easier to go through the day.
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I created a spreadsheet where I ticked off the work I'd done. I could see as the day went on how far behind I was slipping and would then work in bursts to catch up. Sometimes just keeping track of what you are/aren't doing can keep you focused on work.
When I was feeling really out of it, I'd walk around the building taking deep breaths then when I got back to my desk I'd do as much work as I could knowing that I'd drop off again an hour or 2 later.
Hope it helps.
Re: How do you deal with paralysis and inactivity? seyfert: I also went into a funk and couldn't get anything done. Even when I had lots to do, my attention span was gone. I had to allow myself mental breaks about every five minutes. I take deep breaths and let my head go empty.
Even though blonds are suppose to have empty heads, :) it is very hard to do. I think the thing that helped me the most was Bikram Yoga. It's not for everyone. The studio id 105 dry degrees. The class lasts 1.5 hours. I knew for that 1.5 hours, I was stuck there and couldn't do anyting but yoga. That is when my head finally emptied of all the noise.
Yoga is not for everyone, but it helped me. I learned how to quiet the noise even when I'm not there. Of course, I go back once in a while to get a boost.
I get the same kind of emptiness when I go running, but sometimes, running only increases the anger.
Re: How do you deal with paralysis and inactivity? callaway: Same problem here, I can't concentrate. I'm not even working at 85% I think. Maybe more like 50-75%. My boss knows my situation, but I haven't told him how much it affects my work. I try and do the really important stuff and shirk a bit with the less important stuff. I try and comfort myself that I normally do a really good job and it's okay to be a little less productive sometimes.
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