Mother Blues Suddenly Single: How is it that after hearing a "lecture" from my mom I suddenly feel like my life is crappy, not worthy and not all the good things I thought it was? How does she make me feel like my thoughts are not my own and doubt what I feel and where I want to be and my motivation for living my life like I am?
I cannot talk to her about the challenges I have in my new home because I'm afraid she will just talk me into moving back. I am afraid to share my joys because I don't want her to feel as if I'm happy to live so far away...so what is the end result...I'm not honest with her about my life or my feelings.
Does anyone have the same problem with a parent? Just feel crappy after a talk with them?
Re: Mother Blues unhappy: Are you an only child?
Re: Mother Blues Suddenly Single: Yes...How did you know????!!!!!
Re: Mother Blues timetobefree: SS,
I have similar problems with my mom. No matter what I do, I feel like it is not good enough. Drives me crazy. Not to toot my own horn, but I am a good daughter. Graduated valedictorian from HS, full-ride scholarship for both undergrad and grad school, graduated magna cum laude in both, no debt, etc. Never gave them any reason to not be proud of me.
BUT I don't make enough money, spend too much, need to lose weight, yada yada yada. It's like every time I reach the bar she sets for me, she sets it a bit higher.
I have to work at not letting it get to me. She is just being Mom. Always wanting more for me. And that's what I try to tell myself...she doesn't pick at me to be mean, she does it because she loves me and always wants the best for me. Or at least that's what I try to believe! ;D
Hope this helps,
Amy ;D
Re: Mother Blues Suddenly Single: Thanks Amy. I understand that she is being a mom but I feel like whatever I put in my mouth is being analyzed...I'm questioned on how often I exercise...am I saving money?....do I really love MJ or is it the kids?.....Am I really happy?.....do I really want to deal with the situation MJ is in?.....what am I doing about a job?....I spend too much on that...and that....and the other thing....she makes it sound like I have a compulsive shopping disorder. UGH................ I feel judged and I feel inadequate. I know my ex hated me after I talked to her because it was like I almost let her control how I feel. Like I could feel one way about something but after talking to her change my mind and/or doubt myself. It sucks. Today I'm feeling like I don't know how to make my feelings my own.....like is what I'm feeling right OR should I feel what she is thinking and eluding to me? UGH!
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