slapped in the face BONILLAK: I think reality is slapping my husband in his face!! Its taken a month but he is feeling the pain that he caused! We have the latest issues with the kids and visitation(see other posts), I can tell he was hurt last night and when talking today I can tell he was still upset plus he started in on other crap...He asked me why I was being mean? I said mean about what? He asked why I went and told my lawyer that he worked 10yrs or so off the books? I said well gee, how else could I explain how we paid $3000 worth of bills on $1700? He said I don't know but you didn't have to say anything. He went on to say the IRS can find this out and come after him plsu the trouble this info might cause our backruptcy that was just discharged, etc. My answer was I have to look out for the kids and I and he can look in the mirror for his answers. I told him he should have just stayed here 3 more years and been miserable along with me until our youngest was in school fulltime and maybe none of this would had to have come out. He also can't understand why I want/need to go to work, he said I can just do the divorce and go on welfare and then I can get all kinds of assistance! I told him that he is nuts and I refuse to be a welfare mother..never was and never will be. He doesn't want me to work because of daycare costs, etc. My answer, "You did this, blame yourself as you should have never of left until there was a better time." I said, "I told you repeatedly to think long and hard before making a bad choice because the outcome will not be pretty for either of us."
Does it sound like he is getting scared and reality is hitting?
Re: slapped in the face seyfert: It sounds like he is trying to tell you what to do. It sounds like he wants his cake.......
Good luck getting a job.
Re: slapped in the face flyaway: YES! He is definately grabbing at straws here.....but you are so going the right way with this! I think you are making awesome choices.....your kids are so fortunate to have such a strong mom!
In fact, I think you should talk to michael about fast tracking you to "God" status around here....... ;D ;D ;)
We all could benefit and learn from your actions!
Yay bonillak!
Flyaway
Re: slapped in the face unhappy: gotta point this out--
if you go on welfare HE WILL HAVE TO PAY IT BACK!!
he is so dumb.
good luck to you -stay strong
Re: slapped in the face BONILLAK: Oh not according to Einstein himself...he says if I wait until everything is finalized I can go on welfare, get all kinds of assistance and he won't be responsible because he will be paying child support but since it won't be enough for me to live on I will get help from the state! He said they will help me with rent and with daycare if I want to work! He lives in his own little dream world now a days. I think he is starting to have 2nd thoughts but I told him not to call here and complain to me, look in the closest mirror and complain into it and the face looking back is the one to blame. Then I told him have a nice day, talk to you later when you call to talk to the kids.
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