Re: Sexual attraction to the Ex. Spectrum: BM, I ran into some similar issues when I was going through my divorce.
As much as I hate to admit it, I didn't really stop feeling sexually attracted to some aspects of my ex until I had a significant relationship with someone else.... or at least a sexually significant relationship with someone else.
I think that in some ways it is just the natural order of things. When you start to feel the urge, you think of the last time you were really satisfied when you had the same urge.
I had the same issue with my ex bf as well. And after I slept with a friend of mine, VOILA! Problem solved.
It could be that you just need to do some letting go and moving on. Allow yourself to experience that there is indeed life (and sex) after divorce.
Big hugs and best wishes,
Spectrum.
Re: Sexual attraction to the Ex. hardened_heart1970: i would send mine one of those new FTB boukey(sp?)
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Re: Sexual attraction to the Ex. sylvia3113: i understand still being sexually attracted. i just saw my husband today for the first time in i can't remember how long and it's still there.
i know that after all that has happened, it could never be the same and i know he moved on and inserted someone else into my place immediately, but i still ache for him, i still don't sleep on his side of the bed and i am still madly in love with him.
i do think that it will dissipate with time, but even after 5-6 months of separation, i am not ready to move on. i could probably stay in this limbo forever, unfortunately. the thought of dating repulses me, so i stay in this lonely state, remembering what it was like to be with him and fearing that i will never find another like him.
i should go back and re-read some responses to the original post, because they will probably help to give me another perspective.
Re: Sexual attraction to the Ex. Horseface: My situation is the complete opposite. I can see going back with her simply because on one level, we had a lot a fun. however, the sex, the companionship, the 'oneness' was never there. The sex was all up to me as she did not like participating.
So, the thought of sex with her is almost unthinkable for me. I would rather go to the dentist then put myself back in that position again.
I can not imagine and I'm sure that would be difficult for you to deal with.
