Stuck in limbo Dharma Bum: What a crappy feeling this is. My wife told me she wanted a divorce, out of the blue, at the end of May. I moved out on Labor Day. We have no contact whatsoever. I have stopped thinking about her, as much as that is possible, and what she's doing/with whom. I have stopped worrying about whether she will ever come to grips with the fact that she's a lesbian, or if she's just going to bury her head in the sand with her new guy "friend." It's her life and if she wants to keep going through it miserably, there's nothing I can do about it.
I've started sleeping a lot better, I don't feel quite so alone when I am by myself. But, winter (long, dark, cold) is coming fast and that worries me. I am pretty much having to invite myself over to friends' houses and stuff, which makes me feel a little cruddy, but everyone has their own lives, I guess.
I just feel like I'm in limbo. We're waiting for the initial paperwork to come from the court for me to sign, then we have to hash out the actual divorce agreement, then that's 60 days after the paper is turned in. I feel like I'm married until I am divorced, if that makes any sense, so meeting women, trying to date, etc just isn't at the top of the list. But, nothing is. Now I'm in the same rut I've always been in, working hard to pay my bills, only now I'm doing it completely alone with no one to share my day with and no dogs to play with for fun! This sucks!
It feels like this is going to be the "rest of my life." Alone, not very happy but not totally unhappy, working with nothing fun to break it up. I know it doesn't have to be that way unless that's the life I make for myself, but it is just frustrating to be in this limbo. Sheesh.
