Re: OK I graduated to this board thehitekrednek: All good advice, men and women. I just can't stand being lonely anymore.
thr
Re: OK I graduated to this board in_search_of: I just want to warn you. you have just started, and its going to take a while to get comfortable. You are probably going to feel like you feel right now, ready willing and able to date, for a while. And later, you are going to think, what was I thinking, I jumped in to fast, I need a break. And if/when that comes, take your berak! not a problem.
My main clue in saying this the that you said "I just can't stand being lonely anymore."
Being lonely and being alone are two very different things. I have been lonely when I was alone, and I have been lonely in a crowded room. I am not in a position to judge whether or not you are ready, but in the long run, I think you will find that right now, you aren't quite there. Which does not mean that you shouldn't get out there anyway!
Re: OK I graduated to this board thehitekrednek: Thanx ISO
I am probably no where near ready but I hate feeling alone and hollow. I am a very social person but I just can't seem to find comfort in crowds right now I would like some one on one.....not sex as much as company.
thr
Re: OK I graduated to this board in_search_of: THR,
not a problem at all, I just wanted to point that out.
I personally can totally understand where you are coming from. the first thing I did was fill the void in my life by meeting people. I needed to have someone, it kept me from feeling empty alone, and allowed me to have something to do with my time.
I had a friend who filled the needs I had at the time. We had a year or more of "relationship" and when we were no longer filling one another's needs we moved on....
Get out there, do what you need to do, but in the end, if you feel like you need to take a step back, then do that too!
Re: OK I graduated to this board Horseface: Hello and welcome to this board. I am in the exact same place you are but just a little longer for me.
I would LOVE to have someone of the female persuasion to just talk to or go to a movie with. It wouldn't have to be a relationship thing - just a friend that I could laugh with. However...it doesn't appear that that is going to happen so I simply just get through the day.
I have only been at this for 3 months but it some ways it feels like for ever and in other ways it seems very quick. I do have way more good days than bad days now so that is very encouraging to me. However, the legal stuff is just now starting so some of that may change.
Having said all of that that really has nothing to do with you - sorry.. It will get better you just have to give it some time. I call this "A Season of Pain" and all seasons eventually end - I just have to keep going and this one as well!
Good Luck - it isn't easy!
