Re: My turn at venting Bree: I'm going thru the same thing right now, except for my lovely man married me, I'm 7 months pregnant and he walks out to be with his ex-wife all because she showed up in his life after 2 1/2 yrs. I feel the way you do.
But, my question is this ....it has occurred to me that maybe I'm too nice, too giving, to self-sacraficing. Could that be the problem? Why he could just walk all over me and dump me like a piece of trash? Was I too nice??????
Also, I am feeling like I may not be able to open my heart ever again like I did w/my husband. I love him with everything, so deeply and as infinitely as I loved him, I feel my pain is just as intense as that love. I keep thinking ...well, I'm a good person. So, how can someone have the capacity to do that to a "good" person who loved them wholly? I just can't fathom why????
Re: My turn at venting cyncyn_22: [quote author=Bree link=topic=20564.msg190873#msg190873 date=1129779715">
I'm going thru the same thing right now, except for my lovely man married me, I'm 7 months pregnant and he walks out to be with his ex-wife all because she showed up in his life after 2 1/2 yrs. I feel the way you do.
But, my question is this ....it has occurred to me that maybe I'm too nice, too giving, to self-sacraficing. Could that be the problem? Why he could just walk all over me and dump me like a piece of trash? Was I too nice??????
Also, I am feeling like I may not be able to open my heart ever again like I did w/my husband. I love him with everything, so deeply and as infinitely as I loved him, I feel my pain is just as intense as that love. I keep thinking ...well, I'm a good person. So, how can someone have the capacity to do that to a "good" person who loved them wholly? I just can't fathom why????
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First of all, I don't think there is such a thing as being too nice. If someone doesn't like you because they think you're "too nice", then that's an insecurity on their part. So in no way should you blame yourself or think that you caused him to walk out on you. :)
I find myself asking those same questions. It's hard to imagine someone you love so much not wanting to be with you, especially when you love someone unconditionally and they know it.
As for you and me both, we'll probably never understand why my ex or your husband did what they did. I feel that even if my ex did explain everything in plain english, I still wouldn't understand.
Both of us can take solace in the fact that there are people out there who do appreciate somone who loves unconditionally and is self-sacrificing and giving. The challenge for us now is to find that person who deserves to have you and me.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I feel sorry for your baby too. It must be so horrible have your husband walk out on you while pregnant. God, the nerve of some people just ticks me off sometimes. >:(
Keep your head up and keep us posted on how the pregnancy goes! :)
cyncyn_22
Re: My turn at venting picadilly: heh, he's a fool. A woman that loves hockey... dream come true. ;P
You'll meet Mr. Right & you'll know cause he'll treat you right, never disrespect you & get you the occasional trip into town to watch a game.
Re: My turn at venting cyncyn_22: [quote author=picadilly link=topic=20564.msg191093#msg191093 date=1129832041">
heh, he's a fool. A woman that loves hockey... dream come true. ;P
You'll meet Mr. Right & you'll know cause he'll treat you right, never disrespect you & get you the occasional trip into town to watch a game.
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Let's hope so! ;D ;D ;D
cyncyn_22
Re: My turn at venting kirkmail: don't take this wrong, but your venting was cute. I like the way you get p**st off! And you should be. Some how or another, you look like you have a good sense of humor.
I think the infidelity thing is such a wasteful stupid thing. A weak, stupid person does that... and your right to get pissed. Keep your sence of humor!
I know in my own case....this is all very difficult... and it suck.... and the times I express a little humor.... I catch a little sanity.
As Buffett says, "if we couldn't laugh, we'd just go insane!"
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