Why do they continue to hurt you??? judy: From Oregon -- and here you can not kick them out of the house. Going thru the divorce proceedings/asking for mediation. Yet everyday he goes off on how he is going to screw me with the lawyers and contiue to say mean things that put me into tears. He is the one that had the affair, and continues to see this girl so I do not understand why he is being go cruel to me. Sidenote - I can not leave, the house is my financial responsibility and if I leave he will not pay the bills and ruin my credit.
Judy
Re: Why do they continue to hurt you??? frontier74: Hey Judy,
I don't know what your financial situation is, but you might look into a short term apartment, or stay with friends/family. Just make sure that you continue to pay the mortgage and other bills yourself. You can mail the bills from any address.
Re: Why do they continue to hurt you??? Suddenly Single: People hurt people because somehow we let them or are available to let them. Maybe you being there is a continuous reminder to him of what an a**hat he is and he in his warped mind is blaming you. Why is the house *YOUR* financial responsibility? Isn't he responsible ofr 50%? If the house is in both names - he is just as responsible as you. If you could....have your bills forwarded to another address and see if there is anyone you can move out with. If his name is not on the house - he needs to get out - plain and simple.
HUGS to you.
Re: Why do they continue to hurt you??? lilly10: Judy I wonder the same thing. My ex left me for someone else as well. Everytime I have contact with him he is an ass. I think the other woman has put thoughts into his head or something. Who really knows. I hate that we own our house together other wise I would of wiped my hands of him a long time ago! Judy can you put the house on the market?
Re: Why do they continue to hurt you??? KdUb: [quote author=judy link=topic=20565.msg190466#msg190466 date=1129741525">
From Oregon -- and here you can not kick them out of the house. Going thru the divorce proceedings/asking for mediation. Yet everyday he goes off on how he is going to screw me with the lawyers and contiue to say mean things that put me into tears. He is the one that had the affair, and continues to see this girl so I do not understand why he is being go cruel to me. Sidenote - I can not leave, the house is my financial responsibility and if I leave he will not pay the bills and ruin my credit.
Judy
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WOW - I really feel for you Judy. So much it makes my heart ache. It's like he's instigating you to fight w/ him. Spend as much time out of his line of fire as you can. Visit friends, family (if you can). Get the paperwork thru ASAP and get that man out of your life. You don't need him. You are worth more than that. You deserve to be treated and loved better than that and he knows it. He's probably mad because he knows doesn't stand a chance with you and he's losing you forever. He's a child. Immature. Pay him no mind. Keep posting. We'll help ya! :)
Keegan
